My parents have my passport how do i get it back?

• So my mother took my passport when i was 15 probably and when they force me on family trips they always hold onto it when i was 16 i stole it (was not living at home) my mother told me i return it or she calls the police. so i returned it. Now i am 2 months from being 18. I am wondering what do i do. i live in canada btw. so i could go to the passport office declare it lost and have a new one made, but then my mother could call the police for fraud as technichally i knew where it was (yes she would do that, she kicked me out on my 16th birthday for staying up 5 minutes later than the enforced time. ive lived on and off sometimes at home, sometimes with friends occasionally on my own for 2 years. i am currently living with them but was planning to move out the day of my birthday and leave the country a few days later. my question is. what do i do? short of hoping she magically has a heart attack and die. the issue is complicated by the fact that several months before i had stolen some money from her and am curently repaying it but if i were to leave or i were to ask for my passport back or anything she would charge me. regardless of wether i payed it back, because its still legally theft. but on her i have the fact that she has spat on me (and called me names everyday but thats legal ), when the theft occured she kept telling me she was going to charge me so i could get raped in jail as punishment. but i somehow convinced her to let me work off the money. but she loves hoaving power, so she will always use this as a threat over my head. so on the one hand i cant really do anything because she has this weapon, on the other hand its going to be a long time till she is dead unfortunately. and i cant live my life in fear for the next bloody 20,30,40 years so ideally there would be a way to do everything and avoid detection, so she couldnt use her secret weapon of charging me the point was that i will be 18 in 2 months (not that long so, i could hypothetically do this the day i turn 18 right? and well i wanted to leave the country i realize its going to be difficult to actually move somewhere since i dont have a skilled trade or anything but thats ok im perfectly fine with moving around as long as i never have cintact with hem and im as far away as possible. i have no issue waiting 2 months to resolve the passport issue. 2 months is like 8 weeks, thats not that long. but the issue is can i book a ticket now or should i wait i was planning on using a prepaid credit card.

• Answer:

  Two issues- your passport and the money you took. Until you're 18, you can't get a passport on your own, so you'll have to do without just a bit longer. Once you're 18, you can try one more time to get your property back. If she refuses, tell the passport agency that your mother won't give you your passport. If they consider that "stolen" or "lost," that'll be up to them. But once you're 18, you can get your own passport without her control. The money is another thing. Depending on when you took it, she may look a bit foolish telling the police about it well after the fact. You may want to confirm this independently with an attorney, but criminal charges seem remote. And repaying the money you took may be therefor pointless, but that's a call you'll have to make. (Hoping you get raped in prison doesn't indicate much maternal affection.) When you're 18, you may want to have less contact with her. Don't be nasty, but just don't be around for her to control. You may not be the ideal child, but if you're not around, you also won't be tempted to steal from her. Unless you have a visa, "leaving the country" a few days after your 18th birthday will cause you a different sort of problem- you'll bump into another form of control- immigration. Having problems with parents is one kind of problem; having immigration problems is a different sort. Unless you have a visa, all you can do is visit the US for 90 days, not long enough to establish your new life in a new country. Canada's a big place, and starting something good in a different province won't be impossible. Stop stealing money and try to avoid authority confrontations. ... Best of luck!!