Ok my husband left me on christmas eve without evening saying bye, i have looked for him for weeks he had his?

Looks like rebound guys. But that married guy distance yourself from him. That married guy is a cheater, by just flirting with you. You will be ok. Yes handle the divorce. Yes focus on job and your life. Look at the sky, look at the tree. The joy from everything around you is your happiness. Your free right now so take advantage of it. You never know maybe he was just a jerk, politely saying. Good that he is gone, make sure he doesn't come back. Be strong for your sake. Relationships are obligation, yet enjoyment, but there is responsibilities. Make sure this is the way you want to go. If you do, join chat rooms, clubs, hobbies and meet people that like what you like. There is so much you can do, start with little steps and keep at it. Either way for later as a wife if you decide to make that move again make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace. Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband. Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want. Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way. Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.

You need to get your 'affairs' in order (so to speak) get the divorce going, move his stuff out (to where ever) change the locks on the doors, then you can get on with life. Just tell the new guys to slow down, you need to get out of one relationship so you can concentrate on a new one. You really can't make a good judgement on a new relationship if you still have one hanging over you. See which ones hang on or get impatient. Time can tell you alot about a person.

Ah that's such an awful thing your husband did to you. I'm sorry you're having to go through that. And it sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure from these three guys? I think you've got to do what's best for you - and you only, you've been through so much already. I'd honestly suggest tell these guys that you're not ready for marriage or anything as serious. If they're happy just to date & you want to keep dating them, then ok & if they do truly care for you, they will understand. If they get upset or angry or try to pressure you, then you don't need them in your life. If they try to tell you that you are hurting them etc., then that's really very unfair to you. You deserve to be able to take some time out for yourself, to look after yourself & just enjoy casual dating right now. You don't have any responsibility to make these guys happy or give them what they want - you just give them what you feel you're able to give them. If they truly love you back, they'll want you to be happy & not feel pressured. Good luck :)

Ah that's such an awful thing your husband did to you. I'm sorry you're having to go through that. And it sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure from these three guys? I think you've got to do what's best for you - and you only, you've been through so much already. I'd honestly suggest tell these guys that you're not ready for marriage or anything as serious. If they're happy just to date & you want to keep dating them, then ok & if they do truly care for you, they will understand. If they get upset or angry or try to pressure you, then you don't need them in your life. If they try to tell you that you are hurting them etc., then that's really very unfair to you. You deserve to be able to take some time out for yourself, to look after yourself & just enjoy casual dating right now. You don't have any responsibility to make these guys happy or give them what they want - you just give them what you feel you're able to give them. If they truly love you back, they'll want you to be happy & not feel pressured. Good luck :)

You need to get your 'affairs' in order (so to speak) get the divorce going, move his stuff out (to where ever) change the locks on the doors, then you can get on with life. Just tell the new guys to slow down, you need to get out of one relationship so you can concentrate on a new one. You really can't make a good judgement on a new relationship if you still have one hanging over you. See which ones hang on or get impatient. Time can tell you alot about a person.