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Is it ok to ask for donations to have my late friend's cat shipped to me by plane?

  • In August of last year, my best friend was murdered. He left behind two cats. At the moment, both cats are with a mutual friend of ours who lives in a different state than I do. I am currently in college and can barely cover rent so I don't have the $300 it will cost for the plane ticket and the vet visit (to fly on a plane, cats need a health certificate dated within 10 days of the flight). The cats have been fighting more and more and need to be separated. The friend who has the cats right now wants to keep one of the cats but I need to get the other one to me. My friend adored his cats and I cannot bear the thought of a stranger getting either of them. I was thinking I could create a page through Facebook where people could send donations through Paypal. Do you think it is wrong of me to ask for donations? Patamon, I would only be asking for donations from friends of the deceased. They are aware of the situation, not strangers. I considered the fact that I should show proof of what the money is being used for. Perhaps I could provide receipts as proof? Also, the cats are in the same country as me, just a different state. Pearl, if you are referring to the friend who currently has possession of the cats, I considered that. However, if she had the money she would have paid for everything already. Sweet, that is a good suggestion, but I would rather not ask strangers for donations. Genibus, I am certain his friends remember that he was murdered. As I mentioned, the friend who has the cats currently can't afford the fees either. The reason it is taking so long to get the cats is because one of them wasn't even found in the apartment until about a month after my friend was killed. After that, both were sick and had to be treated before they could move on from the animal clinic. The friend who currently has the cats lives a few hours from where my late friend lived and drove to pick them up. I would drive to her place to get the cat but she lives on the other side of the country and the gas money would be even more than the airfare. Do you really think friends of his would resent me asking for help? They don't have to contribute if they don't want to. Also, I have considered a loan but unfortunately I don't know anyone who can do that. A yahoo user: Thank you. I would ask my parents but they haven't been very supportive of me trying to get custody of the cat. I do understand that pets cost money. I can afford things like food and cat litter. I already have one cat. I thought Paypal would be an easy way for people to donate, but sending them a stamped envelope is a good idea also. I would happily pay everyone back as soon as I am able. I am in college right now and my financial aid barely covers things like the tuition and rent. I have applied to every business I could think of out here to try to get a job but unfortunately no one is hiring right now. I have nothing of value to sell either, or I would do that in a heartbeat. Thank you for your sympathy. This has been very hard for me. He was a great friend and he didn't deserve what happened to him. Happy Chip, Thank you. I understand your concerns and I have considered that myself. When my friend was still alive I do remember the cats would fight on occasion. I don't know if perhaps the trauma of seeing the murders and then being moved to the clinic and then to a new home has caused them to fight more, or why they are fighting (seemingly) more. I have considered the possibility that the cat would fight with the cat I have now. If that were to happen, I have a friend who is willing to take one of the cats. She has no pets currently so there would be no issue of another pet to fight with if my friends cat doesn't get along with my cat. I honestly don't know which cat I would send to live with my friend. It is a decision I would surely agonize over. My friend lives close enough that I would still be able to see the cat I send there on a regular basis. I don't know if it would be best to give my friend's cat to a stranger. I know I am still very much gr

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    To "Genibus Nitito, Canus!": I'm sorry, but I think you need to re-examine what you believe is a friendship. First, exactly how long do you think it would take for you to forget about a friend being murdered? And second, why would a friend 'resent' another friend for asking for help? To "JoshinU": I am so sorry for your loss. I believe it's perfectly fine to ask for donations due to the circumstances.

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Yes i feel it is fine to ask to donate. YOur friend was murdered and you do not have enough money to FLY the cats out here....Nothing wrong with that. Explain the situation and put it in the paper or on the news. You can call them and see if they will take the story. It doesn't hurt to ask... The worst that can happen is they have enough stories about animals. But hey maybe, they will take the story. ASK! This is a good story.

Yes i feel it is fine to ask to donate. YOur friend was murdered and you do not have enough money to FLY the cats out here....Nothing wrong with that. Explain the situation and put it in the paper or on the news. You can call them and see if they will take the story. It doesn't hurt to ask... The worst that can happen is they have enough stories about animals. But hey maybe, they will take the story. ASK! This is a good story.

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To "Genibus Nitito, Canus!": I'm sorry, but I think you need to re-examine what you believe is a friendship. First, exactly how long do you think it would take for you to forget about a friend being murdered? And second, why would a friend 'resent' another friend for asking for help? To "JoshinU": I am so sorry for your loss. I believe it's perfectly fine to ask for donations due to the circumstances.

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No, it is not okay to ask for donations. First of all, people have short memories so August of last year is a long time ago for most people. They will wonder why it took you so long to get the cat and then they will suspect this is some sort of scam. Even if they don't get suspicious they will be resentful of you asking for donations. Second, that cat is now your responsibility. Bills are included with the responsibility of cat ownership. Try asking for loans and maybe some people will be willing to voluntarily give you the money. Perhaps the friend who currently has both cats would be willing to pay half the fees. It doesn't hurt to ask.

JoshinU, so sorry about your friend. Is it possible to ask your parents for some? I wouldn't hesitate to write all of your friends who knew your lost friend. I am not sure how paypal could do that, do you? Have you considered sending them a stamped envelope with your address to have them mail $ back to you? If your parents gave some and the friends gave some, you should get it. JoshinU, also, do you know kitty litter, food and the vet bills still go on when you get the cats? Pets cost, just wanted you to think of that. A nice thing you are considering. I hope you can do it.

i think you should just ask your friend for a donation

Joshin, I'm truly sorry about your friend and the tragic circumstances. But I just felt I had to say -- you mention you already have a cat almost as an after-thought. Have you considered what effect it might have on your existing pet if a strange cat is suddenly moved in? What happens if THESE two cats never stop fighting? Will you seek to rehome one? If so, which? Your existing happy pet, or your friend's cat, who has already had a bit of trauma in losing his first home? Is there any reason why your friend's cats, who presumably before his death lived together in harmony, are now fighting more and more? I understand how badly you are grieving for the loss of your friend, but please, please, think twice before adopting this cat. It might all end in tears. Would it not be best for the animal if he is found a kind new home somewhere around where he is at the moment? Sorry to be blunt.

I suppose it's okay to want people to donate to u cause ur best friend was murdered and sorri for ur loss :) But u can't just go around asking people for money when u hav no proof if wat ur doing donating for is even true. U hav to have a information card and all that stuff, but I don't really think they will donate of it's for 2 cats over in other country's in my opinion, good luck! :)

Joshin, I'm truly sorry about your friend and the tragic circumstances. But I just felt I had to say -- you mention you already have a cat almost as an after-thought. Have you considered what effect it might have on your existing pet if a strange cat is suddenly moved in? What happens if THESE two cats never stop fighting? Will you seek to rehome one? If so, which? Your existing happy pet, or your friend's cat, who has already had a bit of trauma in losing his first home? Is there any reason why your friend's cats, who presumably before his death lived together in harmony, are now fighting more and more? I understand how badly you are grieving for the loss of your friend, but please, please, think twice before adopting this cat. It might all end in tears. Would it not be best for the animal if he is found a kind new home somewhere around where he is at the moment? Sorry to be blunt.

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