I try to help people, but I just end up being the guy everyone likes to avoid, why is that?

Wow. You are the politest one in your family. I can understand your frustration with those things. To your first question: offering someone advice without their asking for it = insulting them. That's why you become the one they avoid, because you aren't helping them, you're insulting them.

Quite simply, you have no right to tell anyone what they should be doing. That's a job for a parent. If you don't like what they're doing, simply walk away. Your concerns have been stated. And buy your own bread. EDIT: I really think you need to grow up. You've asked this question 4 times in 4 different categories, and have disputed every answer you've gotten that didn't agree with you. You're spoiled, have delusions of grandeur and an over-inflated sense of authority. You're not the parent. You are the child. What gives you the right to demand that everyone live according to the standards YOU have set for them? You've made your concerns known, and apparently no one really cares what you think. Move on, move out and GET OVER YOURSELF. You aren't that special.

Quite simply, you have no right to tell anyone what they should be doing. That's a job for a parent. If you don't like what they're doing, simply walk away. Your concerns have been stated. And buy your own bread. EDIT: I really think you need to grow up. You've asked this question 4 times in 4 different categories, and have disputed every answer you've gotten that didn't agree with you. You're spoiled, have delusions of grandeur and an over-inflated sense of authority. You're not the parent. You are the child. What gives you the right to demand that everyone live according to the standards YOU have set for them? You've made your concerns known, and apparently no one really cares what you think. Move on, move out and GET OVER YOURSELF. You aren't that special.

Wow. You are the politest one in your family. I can understand your frustration with those things. To your first question: offering someone advice without their asking for it = insulting them. That's why you become the one they avoid, because you aren't helping them, you're insulting them.

Actually I have edited my reply (which was nice) after reading through all of your additional responses to everyone that has answered. The title is completely misleading, you are 100% a wack job and are not a nice guy you seem like a rude psycho with problems. To be honest your whole family (including you) sounds like some complete rednecks that live out in the boonies of rural Arkansas. How the hell are we to know information that you didn't present until after people had replied. I agree with mushy, and before you go on about me being a redneck or that I live in filth - I actually live in a multi- million dollar house on the beach with a cleaner. That is what happens when you stop bitching about everyone else and start living your own life, working hard and make decisions like a grown up = you start making money and get successful. You should try it rather than going all crazy at everyone.

Your family is wocko. I would get stark raving mad if my family threw rocks for my dog to catch. My family never made any sense to me either. My sister use to hold me at knife point at the age of five and my parents never did anything about it. I told them there was something wrong with her (as a very concerned 11 yr old). She turned out to be a monster and then my family turned to me to see what they should do after she turned 18. I told them to piss off since they didnt listen to me earlier (there is a litany of issues I brought up about her behavior). I had to get away from my family to quit feeling like a reject. I dont know what makes a family so "unruly" but if you're the only 'sane' person in the group you're going to find out that people in other families dont live the same way together..dont lose your personal choices just because your dad says to put up with the crap that your family doles out.

It seems that you have learned to be considerate person - are your sisters older than you? When you are an older sibling it is sometimes hard to take constructive criticism from your younger sibling. If this were a roommate situation I'd say your roommates are not considerate to you and when they move out on their own your sisters will have a lot to learn about Hygiene, consideration and being a good roommate. You could explain that to your Dad - how you feel like the only adult of the bunch when he isn't home, and are tired of cleaning up after cigarette butts and being paranoid to eat the bread because of your sister not washing her hands - that is nasty and can give food poisoning, and how you have to nag all the time to have a functional household. It is not neurotic to want some consideration and to expect to have clean food. From retail I have learned that sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it and they might feel like you are nagging - but it seems that with what is going on you have to say something about these conditions. But sometimes you can say things nicely and if the person is inconsiderate they won't hear or listen to what you have to say even if the information is useful. An idea is for you all to have a family meeting when your Dad is there - have a talking stick (any object can be used - a doll, teddy bear, spoon) The person holding the stick does the talking and the others do the listening and cannot interrupt or interject while the person holding the talking stick is speaking - then it is passed to the next person who talks and the others listen.

It seems that you have learned to be considerate person - are your sisters older than you? When you are an older sibling it is sometimes hard to take constructive criticism from your younger sibling. If this were a roommate situation I'd say your roommates are not considerate to you and when they move out on their own your sisters will have a lot to learn about Hygiene, consideration and being a good roommate. You could explain that to your Dad - how you feel like the only adult of the bunch when he isn't home, and are tired of cleaning up after cigarette butts and being paranoid to eat the bread because of your sister not washing her hands - that is nasty and can give food poisoning, and how you have to nag all the time to have a functional household. It is not neurotic to want some consideration and to expect to have clean food. From retail I have learned that sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it and they might feel like you are nagging - but it seems that with what is going on you have to say something about these conditions. But sometimes you can say things nicely and if the person is inconsiderate they won't hear or listen to what you have to say even if the information is useful. An idea is for you all to have a family meeting when your Dad is there - have a talking stick (any object can be used - a doll, teddy bear, spoon) The person holding the stick does the talking and the others do the listening and cannot interrupt or interject while the person holding the talking stick is speaking - then it is passed to the next person who talks and the others listen.

Your family is wocko. I would get stark raving mad if my family threw rocks for my dog to catch. My family never made any sense to me either. My sister use to hold me at knife point at the age of five and my parents never did anything about it. I told them there was something wrong with her (as a very concerned 11 yr old). She turned out to be a monster and then my family turned to me to see what they should do after she turned 18. I told them to piss off since they didnt listen to me earlier (there is a litany of issues I brought up about her behavior). I had to get away from my family to quit feeling like a reject. I dont know what makes a family so "unruly" but if you're the only 'sane' person in the group you're going to find out that people in other families dont live the same way together..dont lose your personal choices just because your dad says to put up with the crap that your family doles out.