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What is wrong with this 14 yr old kid? Does he need some kind of counseling?

  • (This is a serious question. Please read patiently & don’t be mean while answering.) I am a 24yr old Indian girl & I started teaching a few neighbourhood school kids when I was 15. (Just for time – pass & also I liked teaching) There are these 2 boys. I would name them X & Y over here. 'X' is 'Y's cousin. Since I don’t have a brother I consider both of them like my little brothers. Y is some what normal. It is ‘X’ that I am worried about. He was nice jolly kid but then as he grew up his behaviour slowly changed. When he was just 12 he started behaving weirdly. One night when I was teaching them there was a power cut. The emergency light wouldn’t work so I lighted a candle so that they could study as they had school tests the other day. It was a hot summer night & I was perspiring. While explaining a subject to them I noticed X was not paying attention to what I was saying instead he was staring at my perspiring neck. The next time I caught him staring at my legs. As I was at home so I was wearing only a ‘kameez’ (It is a long shirt or tunic). I felt a little weird…he was just a 12 year old…& I am an adult… but I ignored it. However I don’t teach him anymore on the pretext of having a lot of my own studies to do. But X comes to my house occassionaly as his cousin Y is still studying. (Y is a weak student & needs more guidance.) Now X is 14 & is behaving more weirdly. He has become quieter. He doesn’t look at me straight while talking but when I turn my face I find him looking at me & then immediately he looks away. Sometimes when I would talk to him he would become quite & shy & would look down. Recently his cousin (female) got married. We were invited to this big fat Indian wedding. I was wearing a lovely pink sleeveless salwar-kameez. As I was about to get into the room to meet the bride X came from behind & suddenly held me from behind & then smoothly slid his hands up my arms feeling them. I was too stunned to react! Before I could say anything he pushed me ahead holding me to meet the bride. I felt ashamed but I couldn’t say anything! I am 24 but I look younger than my age. People easily mistake me for an 18-19 year old BUT still he is just a 14 year old kid!!! & I am 24…almost 10 years old than this kid!!! It is very disturbing!!! How can a kid behave like this with some girl so much older than him? I don’t have a brother so I don’t know if kids of this age behave this weirdly. So What IS THIS KID ABNORMAL? DOES HE HAVE SOME SERIOUS ISSUES? DOES HE NEED COUNSELLING? Please give proper advice. @Aidensilver - Thanks a lot for your suggestion. Actually our Indian culture discourages us from getting involved into any kind of sexual activities until we get married. A person is considered to be a child until he/she is 18 & should concentrate on his studies. But now a days there are exceptions. However we basically find it unacceptable if a child shows interest in an elder. That is why I thought he has some problems.

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    I have two brothers and help teach classes for elementary and Junior high students. It is perfectly normal for some one of that age (boy or girl) to be attracted to older people. They are just trying to figure out how the whole love thing works and often think they are desperately "in love" with an older individual. The fact that you are nice to him may be perceived (by him and his friends) as you being interested, and the possibility that a more mature person may be interested in him, makes him feel grown up. Let him down easy but if he won't take a hint his parents or cosine might be able to help.

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I have two brothers and help teach classes for elementary and Junior high students. It is perfectly normal for some one of that age (boy or girl) to be attracted to older people. They are just trying to figure out how the whole love thing works and often think they are desperately "in love" with an older individual. The fact that you are nice to him may be perceived (by him and his friends) as you being interested, and the possibility that a more mature person may be interested in him, makes him feel grown up. Let him down easy but if he won't take a hint his parents or cosine might be able to help.

Amy

I agree with what most ppl are saying but realize this you do need to tell him no, but he will probably won't talk to you again. xD

Nikita

give him a nice reprimand and threaten to tell his parents.This works easily.

Jorge Valdano

He is not acting weird. He is just becoming aware.. You take care

Rajesh Kochhar

In one sense, he is a normal teenage boy with raging hormones as he enters puberty. In an other sense, he needs a strong male hand to educate him about how to properly act around women; preferably a hand across his backside. Talk to his parents about your concerns.

Steve

He has a crush on you, just like most boys entering puberty his emotions and hormones are all over the place. It's not uncommon for girls or boys to have crushes on others much older then them. They problem comes when they or the adult act on it. Please don't take this the wrong way, but you seem a bit sheltered/naive when it comes to relationships and/or affections, this is probably why this shocks or disturbs you so much. You need to take X to the side and tell him that you are flattered at his attention but it's inappropriate especially with the touching, but he would be better off going for someone his own age. You might need to inform his parents of his crush as well.

aidensilver

He's crushing on you and has raging hormones. But, you need to tell him that he needs to respect boundaries and personal space. If he doesn't, go to his parents.

island_fever

It sounds as though he has developed a crush, it is not unusual for that age group to like an older person. There are so many changes going on during that stage of development, but him physically touching in the manner you described is not acceptable. This is where your problem is going to get tricky, letting him know that physical is wrong, but to do so in a way that he will not feel embarrassed or ashamed.

Teresa

He has a crush on you, just like most boys entering puberty his emotions and hormones are all over the place. It's not uncommon for girls or boys to have crushes on others much older then them. They problem comes when they or the adult act on it. Please don't take this the wrong way, but you seem a bit sheltered/naive when it comes to relationships and/or affections, this is probably why this shocks or disturbs you so much. You need to take X to the side and tell him that you are flattered at his attention but it's inappropriate especially with the touching, but he would be better off going for someone his own age. You might need to inform his parents of his crush as well.

aidensilver

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