What can I do to relieve the tension and tightness in my shoulder, neck, & jaw muscles? I'm so tense all the time, I don't remember what it feels like to relax!

well since your hubby is sound asleep, it is time for the old hot bath and candle time all by yourself. of course, being a nice person that i am, i would be willing to sacrifice my time to fill in for your hubby if you want ---- happy holidays to you

Heat. Heating pad, hot packs, hot washcloth on the muscles. Something to remember also is that the tension may not be where the actual problem is. For instance, most of my neck pain is from the tension in my back and shoulders. Hip and knee pain, from my lower back. The bottom line is that your stressed -- I won't tell you to reduce the stress in your life, because that's what people tell me, and it makes me want to strangle them -- and your body will be in this constant state of tension, while that stress exists. Sometimes a hot pack on my neck, and a cold pack on my head helps. When I had my wisdom teeth removed, I had terrible jaw pain. I slept with a cold pack (the bean/rice filled ones), underneath my jaw, while I slept on my side. It eased the pain a bit. Aromatherapy scents help. I have some lotions with a bit of chamomile or spearmint in it. A light scent sometimes eases things. And lastly, sometimes I just soak my feet in the bathtub in some hot water.

a few glasses of wine or my husband having sex with me slowly usually helps.. can you get wine, sex or possibly both?