I don't know whether I'm straight, gay, or bi. I'm a freshman in college and I've only had one boyfriend 4 yrs ago. I have a crush on a guy now but I also find my self thinking about girls a lot, how can I tell w/o making out with a random girl? Help?

I am having this same problem. It sucks a lot. I love my boyfriend but when i am masturbating i get off to only girls. I think we just got to accept it and move on with life and hopefully it is just a phase. I would not be catagorizing any of us. I believe what attracks us isnt what we really want

Why kill yourself with questions. Find out what you like and what you dont ;) sexuality means nothing, it does not make a person who they are.

It sounds as if you're what some people might call "bi-curious." Simply put, you just haven't made up your mind. No, I don't advise sleeping around with either sex. You can decide your orientation without actually making out with the same sex, just as heterosexual virgins know they're straight even though they've not made out with the opposite sex. It might be helpful to realize that sometimes when a woman finds other women attractive, it's more of a role model thing than anything else--a "Gee, I'd like to look like that" thought as opposed to "Gee, I'd like to..." well, you know. In your place, I might just ask myself how sexual the thoughts are that I think about women, and whether I'd rather have a long term relationship with a man or with a woman.

don't worry about labels, just go with the flow and watch out for stds

Just because you think about girls doesn't make you gay. You're simply 'curious' about what it would be like possibly but if you're attracted to men then thats an indication of your sexuality. Also, sexual fantazies don't define your sexuality it's who your naturally attracted to. For example, I'm a guy and i've had same sex fantazies, however, I am in no way gay and I have always had crushes on girls so it's just who you are naturally attracted to. Hope this helps, all the best.

I would say bi if ur attracted to both..

College is for working this kind of stuff out. Screw some guys, screw some girls. Who makes you cum harder, easier, better? Which do you find yourself daydreaming about? What experiences leave you empty, which experiences leave you wet and panting for more? (assuming you are a woman). Play with your sexuality, don't hang any judgements or "shoulds" on yourself. Get laid and see what makes your crotch throb.

my stepdaughter is bi, but she goes thru cycles of which gender she prefers to be with, usually when a relationship fails for her she goes seeking the opposite of whom she just failed with, I don't think she even realizes she does it. She also switches between black and white men, but prefers white girls. She is currently in a marriage with a white male, her second marriage.

I hope you don't push yourself to be defined by simple thoughts and sexual feelings and arousement. In the States, most of us have been conditioned to have strong reactions to same sex situations and thoughts. You are young and it's healthy to have a fantasy life and explore your thoughts and feelings it doesn't necessarily mean anything, enjoy the person you are with, be true to yourself, and don't get caught up in titles, or labels. One way of looking at it is most people can only really enjoy one person/ relationship at a time, if you are mean't to be with another girl, trust me you will know and you will find out. In no way am I against same sex relations- I'm a Guy who happens to be gay myself, but love and sex are still love and sex no matter who you are with. The grass may be greener on the other side, but even it has to be mowed as well.. So if you happen to really be missing out you will absolutely know, but don't feel that you have to rush yourself. You will know, attraction is there way before you make out with anyone. Matt