I am having a hard time w/my BF staying friends w/his ex. She calls him all the time (just to say hi) and like today they went to get the flu shot together and lunch. He speaks her name in his sleep and sometimes calls be by her name. Am I being stupid?

I have that same issue, but not to that extent. He does not call me by her name, but he calls me 'babe' and probably her, also, so that takes care of that issue <rolls eyes> You are not being stupid at all. It is 'odd' at best. Set some boundaries that you both can agree on and see what happens. He needs to make up his mind before you move on with this relationship.

I don't think you are stupid to worry about things like that. I was in a similar situation with my husband while we were dating. He and his ex went out to the movies, the day after our 1 year anniversary, when we did nothing at all ON our anniversary. And I'm sure they did several other things that I don't know about. He called my mother by HER mother's name the next night. I put a complete stop to it. I told him that he couldn't have it both ways. It was either me, or her. He chose me. 7 years later, I actually found out that he kissed her that night. So I know that I was right in what I did.

sounds like he may still have feelingd for his ex...and sounds like hes doing things with her(flu shot, lunch) that he should be doing with you his gf...have a talk with him.

Hmm. No not stupid but I would be worried and jealous too. Naturally. He needs to learn to respect you and chill on the time he's spending with her. Not only that but she needs to respect that fact that your his present g/f and needs to learn to give you quality time with him. Don't put all the blame on him though b/c then he'll start to do it behind your back. Simply: Why does she need to call you all the time can't we spend more time together?