Does anyone actually believe the whole "if you love someone, set them free" saying? Has anyone ever experienced getting back with someone and feeling like you were "meant" to be together, esp. after a long period of living completely different lives?

I totally agree with this. Almost six months ago, my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me. I was devastated. I spent months after that trying to get him to realize that it was a mistake, and he ended up cutting ties with me altogether. I spent so much time trying to control the situation that it left me depressed, hopeless, and damn near crazy. I was always wondering what he was doing or who he was with or if he had replaced me already. I was a nervous, paranoid, compulsive, emotional wreck. But recently, I experienced this feeling of letting go and "setting him free." I'm still getting used to the notion, but I feel it in my bones... I don't worry anymore about what he's doing, and I'm focusing on my own life for once in a very long time. It's a great feeling. It's indescribable. Now instead of trying to control the outcome of the situation, I've left it up to fate... if we're meant to be together, it will happen later on down the road. If not, then the person I'm meant to be with will come to me eventually. Having a spiritual center is also very helpful. I know everyone believes in different things, but praying and reading my Bible has done wonders. It feels as though God has just lifted this whole burden off of me. It's wonderful. I've let go and left it in God's hands. I just try not to worry about it anymore. In fact, it's getting to a point where I really don't have to anymore. But I think it is a saying that carries a bit of truth. If you hold on tightly to someone, you never give yourself to experience all the wonderful little coincidences and things that life has to offer.

i have been in a situation much like that. The guy i was seeing was perfect in every way and we had such chemistry between us. But because of our age gap, and how it would have been looked down upon, and the probability that we thought that anything serious would not work because of it.. we set eachother free.. It was very touching and magical to feel that way.. But after time, we were brought back together and it felt so right. It definitly feels like there is something very special between us and something that feels very rare :)

Yes I do. I have been on both sides of it. In my previous marrige, he hung on to me so tight I couldn't breathe. It eventually ruined the marriage and I had to leave or I was going to lose my mind. My current boyfriend was my boyfriend 25 years ago in junior high. (I was devestated when he moved away, but I let him go.) We've recently reunited, and he has given me complete freedom with no mistrust, and I have to say, it's so liberating. I have no want to ever do anything that would upset himm, because I feel like I would let him down. And it was hard for me to let go of him as well. I wanted to cling to him every moment of every day, but he started feeling squished. So I had to back off and let him go, and sure enough, he's coming around. I've always felt like he was the one I was supposed to be with. And God willing, this time it will happen because things are just right. It's all about appreciation and trust. If it's not there to begin with, forcing it will only make it worse.

That's a tough one. Part of me thinks that if two people are really in love then they shouldn't have to be set free. On the other hand I have experienced this situation, and know that it is possible if two people are really "supposed" to be together.