I like/love this guy who is in love with his ex, who is in love with her ex from a few years ago. He keeps asking me for advice on how to win her back, knowing that i want to be with him. How do i give advice to him? I cant get past my want for it to end

this was the exact thing hpend to me and i dont know what to do just to get over my feelings ..he asked me b4 to lets try if we wil workout as a partner because he dont want to loose me too and hes trying to move on to with her ex because her ex leave him because she cheated and my bf is so kind to hope and believe and i said i will let you go just forget about me if your just goin to ruined your life with someone who doesnt love you so true and he was just disappear for a while and came back and said i can try coz your important to me.. and we became good partners and he so sweet but suddenly after how many months someone txted him saying he was my bf named carlo and then suddenly my bf became angry and frustrated got drunk and accusing me that it was real that i do hve another bf..and suddenly he was said i dont trust anybody again.. its ouch he refuse to listen to me so i dnt have anything to do just to let him go again .. and set him free find his freedom to be happy even it hurts me so bad..he said im kind and he dont wanna hurt me and he said i deserve sum1 better..mybe i know he will find happiness for now and bec he still virgin and a guy wunt let him be lyk that for a long tym bec i cnt gve him that too for now..so i set him free ..well if the right time comes for me after 5yrs mybe i will gonna give myself back to him all my self.if he deserves me on that time 'right time' wel mybe he still have feeling for me but he just believin for what he saw and believing that all girls are the same.. wel im not.. just enjoying life being myself even others misinterpret my personality..coz its like no one believin that im still virgin at the age of 21 ahah aint funny ryt? wel i dnt care if there is sumthing 4me it wont go away or it will come back wtever i do..even it hurt so bad...i miz him so much.. and hes the one hu can wait what i want .. but hes not trusting anybody now.. juz makin boystuffs for now and enjoying boys life .. now im looking for a place for my mind in my heart to forgt him..even for now..i wana get bz working and studying..this wud not gonna help me ..so i have to be strong even im martir before /? am i?? or i juz love him so much ?harsh i dnt know..stil affected duH! i wnt to survive for myself and love myself now! ...-guys i nid your reaction ..huhuh

Before he actually has a chance at her this would require her to get over her ex and thats something that they will btoh have to do on their own. But if thing were different and she were over her ex the next question is if she is really right for him? And dont let your feelings get in the way of answering this. The third is if youre really right for him. You probably want what makes him happy, but you need to also want the best for you. You may need to tell him that its really hard for you to give hima advice when you have feelings for him (and I'll tell you something else fgorm personal exprience, dont get involved with someone else who is stuck on someone else, you end up the third wheel). In my opinion the only way to seperate yourself from whats happening is to get rid of the feelings/allow them to phase out (by using realistic and harsh ideas, not the bets way but the only way i can think of).

Would you please put names on this? I am confused. They don't have to be the real names of the people. It would just help a lot with names. That pattern is so complicating. How do you follow it? If he's in love with someone else, I really don't see the point in trying, though.

Why do you even want a guy that's disrespectful of your feelings? He adds insult your to injury...he has the nerve to ask you how to get his ex back. And he knows you like him? This guys not even a friend to you in any sense of the word. Dump the clown. You deserve a whole lot better.

Ouch, sounds like a rough situation, but he also sounds is being very disrespectful of your feelings. I'd say goodbye to him and find someone more deserving of your affections. I have a friend that is in love with me but I don't return her feelings. I love someone else, but I'd never ask her for advice on the subject. I know that she would do her best to give good advice but it would also eat her up inside.

He is in love with someone else and as much as it hurts you to give advice to him he is also your friend right! You need to give him your honest advice putting your feelings aside, or you need to tell him how you feel about him. You can also tell him it is a conflict of entrust to give him advice about another girl - that is when you tell him how you feel. Regardless you need to bite the bullet and say something to him, if you give him advice be honest with him. She is in love with someone else and he is in love with her. My advice to your friend would be to tell him to move one. The girl needs to move on as well. Both people need to be on the same page for it to happen.

well just tell your friend to move on its been years. That his life can go on without his EX :)