How do you do a split without hurting yourself?

Iv just split with my ex and im hurting we been split now for just over a mnth she says she has a new man but i love he with all my heart how do i get her back?

• Answer:

  The first suggestion I'm making WILL HURT LIKE THE DEVIL for a few weeks or months - maybe longer! THE ONLY suggestion I can make is to forget about THAT person and move-on! DON'T sit home on any evening waiting for her to "throw you a bone"! GET OUT of that mindset and that environment! If you have one or more hobbies or outside interests such as fishing, hunting, knitting, tennis, golf, trading, real estate, cooking, baking, computers, etc., find a club or group in your area with people who have the same hobbies or interests. You don't have to go to bars, clubs or other "meat market"-type environments. There are some great places to meet nice people right in your own environment and perhaps if you get out of your "comfort zone" just a bit, a whole new world might open before you. If you go to church, temple or mosque, perhaps there are events for singles. If not, go on-line and find-out when and where those social events will occur. At your work, ask about professional organizations, which you can get involved with and participate in. Whatever your interest, IT'S UP TO YOU TO PARTICIPATE AND BE ACTIVE! Get on committees. Let people know you're alive! Get out of your comfort zone just a little: Find a worthy charity and on a regular, dependable basis - just as though it was a second job - do volunteer work for that charity. "The powers that be" and many caring, loving people - the folks you may be hoping to meet and "rub elbows with" and get to know, are those ladies and gentlemen doing volunteer work at hospitals, nursing homes, worthy charities and causes. When you do volunteer work on a consistent, dependable basis, your ability increases, your horizons expand and meeting that "special someone" AND possibly "climb, up the social ladder" could be greatly shortened and you could be recognized A WHOLE LOT SOONER. Are you bashful or an introvert? Perhaps you could enroll and participate in public speaking courses to help you "turn your flower bud into a live, vibrant, beautiful blossom" or plant! There are wonderful courses! If you want something more specific, look for "PUBLIC SPEAKING" in my "Summary". It's just above this series of ***********. BELIEVE ME: NO ONE is going to come and knock on your door asking if you can come out and play. YOU HAVE TO get out three and let yourself be noticed. YOU HAVE to get out there and meet new people! Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: My wonderful family, friends, acquaintances and business associates! The trading groups I belong to. The volunteer work I do. Some personal observations and opinions. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".