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What to do when you broke up with your man?

Your a lesbian,your girlfriend broke up with you and left you heartbroken, for a man who you found out beats her, her daughter loved when you two were together and still visits,when your girlfriend sees you now she is always staring at you,what do you do?

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    No idea. Two possible thoughts come to mind - One: that her lesbianism is what the beater found so attractive and as an abuser he's possibly telling her how cr*p she is by bigging you up and making out you are more fanciable than her - that would hurt her a lot and drive a wedge between you two and that would suit an abuser because they like to make sure their victim feels isolated and lonely as hell with no escape route and no one near to talk sense against the lies. He could also be having fun with her head convincing her that three in a bed would make him be nice to her for a while, or saying lies about you to make sure she feels completely, totally let down by the whole world. Two: She could be waiting, hoping, that you'll offer to drop your home, your job, your life, and start fresh just to run away with her and rescue her. You're going to have to ask. I worry that he's probably put some nasty thoughts about you in her head, for the isolation thing. If you'll always love her and be there for her, now might be the time to say so. Oh, and sometimes, people have it in their heads that they don't deserve happy ever after.. that there just has to be a catch, and if they can't find one, they go and create one. She might actually feel that she 'ought' to be straight and that this is what straight life is all about. I mean she might have left you because things were perfect and she didn't feel she was allowed that, rather than because of anything going wrong. (If that makes sense.) Just thoughts.

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I tread lightly. I taper off the visits with the child- and most importantly, I dont stare back. Make yourself healthy! Easier said than done, eh?

jeleigh

Hope that I can maintain a friendship with the daughter, wish my ex well and move on with my life.

Gingerminx

She made her own choice here. Unless she asks for your help it really is none of your business..at least that is what she appears to have told you..The next move in this situation is not yours.

DA BEN DAN yanggui zi

she sounds like bad news, stay clear of her unless for the cild who you like. you can lead a much healthier life without her and plus if she has those low standards then she doesnt have alot of self worth and that is not something you need to bring you down

jazzymo

i think id want to tell her that i loved her before i still love her now and as a friend would welcome her back. i doubt she needs any "you left me for that" phrases, not her fault she choose someone who turned out to be a jerk, but i would tell the daughter if the boyfriend ever seems dangerous towards her that she can stay with me and the mother would need to be told that if she is a good mother she wouldnt let a dangerous man around her daughter. you love her you want her best interest in mind.(1 Corinthians 13:4 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.)

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