I want to e-mail my ex-friend at work an apology and also say someone i love died to test my his friendship. if he gets mad or suspects and tells HR I e-mailed him since he asked me never to contact him, can HR ask me for a death certificate?

You actually have a job? It's not something critical, like a rocket scientist with NASA, is it?

I read your other question and this person HR asked you not to contact them again, I would abide by their wishes. There is something that is obviously hurting you, maybe its something you did to this person and you feel bad. You are looking for sympanthy from this ex friend by telling a lie. Why not just let it go. If you want to apologize, I would suggest you send it to his home, not work.

why test his friendship? because he has not jacked wiht you makes him far better a friend than you

No. But HR can ask you to clean out your desk and fire you for using company e-mail to deal with your personal socially stunted issues. If you're going to be stupid do it from your personal e-mail.

i dont think they would ever ask for a death certificate, nor be much concerned of the validity of the story. if anything, you would want to be cautious of company equipment policies- which they could get you on. you probably signed something that stated you would follow the policy and are aware of the implications of not doing so; from verbal reprimand, suspension or even termination. its not even worth it. .. just write him a note, fold it up with one of those little pull tabs and tick it in his inbox if you are so determined to contact. but me, i wouldnt put myself out there and contact him at all. if you apologized once for the thing, he knows you are sorry. imho

What friendship? You are no friend.

What a horrible way to test a friendship. I think you already know the answer anyway or you wouldn't suspect him of getting mad at you. If you ever expect to salvage any friendship with this person that is the best way to kill you chances. If you do this I hope you get fired. It's not only childish but mean as well.

Don't lie. Don't lie about people being dead! Don't test people! Respect your friend's wishes if s/he does not want you to be in contact. Let go and get on with your life.

You sound really desperate to get together with this person again. I wouldn't do it if I were you. Death is a serious thing and you don't want to lie about things like that. Be a better person and use your personal email to right a very sincere honest apology letter to your friend. I wish you well.