How do I melt his frozen heart? For 13 months after our first date, we spent every weekend together, romantic and passionate. One Wednesday, he said dont call my number any more. I know he has been hurt, and now afraid of love. Now he just says go away.

did u hurt him? if so, we cannot answer. too complicated. but if u did not hurt him and things great for both of u, then he does this out of the blue? he must have BIG problems to be so cruel. yes, it is cruel. u should be sad and angry for being so badly treated. a frank talk is in order. if he has panicked, he will hopefully admit it and agree for u two to slow way down. build the trust. build the friendship part. but, if he wants to end it, it is over. it is a big trap to think we have the power to heal someone's neuroses. it is a seductive trap to think our love can do that. it does not work. you will waste your time and heart trying.

Maybe you're too clingy and obsessive. Just a possibility.

if he says go away, then listen to him. being hurt and "afraid of love" is all code for "I dont' like you anymroe and don't want to date you." I'm sorry but that's the truth. It also sounds like he's met someone else. Look, I'm on my 75th hour approximately of having been dumped. He is doing me a favor because I need to get my act together and be more self-loving and self-appreciating. He is my love for life and I'm taking this time to change my evil ways (bad attitude, ingratitude, complacent and complaining, nagging when it's really not my style.) We'll always be together but it's time for me to pull up my pants and boots, and get my shiz together for real and for good.

there's more to the story than you have shared...what him hurt to make him fear love 13 months into your relationship?

make him see he is the only one for you assure him that you wont hurt him wheneveer a gyy walks by you when your walking with him look only at him do what he wants to do when you go out show him you dont mind doing what he wants to do itll make him feel better just show him how much you truly care

Just give him space and time. I get really afraid when relationships start getting serious, and the more they try, the more I push them away.

If he is wanting to dump you cold turkey after 13 months with no explanation or communication, then you are probably better off without him. It is just a sign that he cares too much about himself and not enough about you and your feelings.