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How did you get over your ex? and could find new love?

  • I broke up with my bf about 10 years ago, after that i tried to find someone.. I met many guys, but i couldn't find new love.. now i have boy friend. but i don't feel happy with him. I just like him only 1%.really feel sad to stay with him.my feeling doesn't grow. I was really in love with my ex, He is still most nice person in my life. I still miss him alot! and I can not find new love.. People say me one day you will find new love! Is it right? Can i find new love oneday? How did you get over your ex?

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    I am currently going through a tough break up situation. I had been dating my boyfriend for over 7 months now. All our problems have been due to his ex. He talks to her behind my back, of which at first she told me and I told him that she still cared for him and not to be mean to her, later he just began doing it behind my back. He would say all sorts of awful things about her then later I would find txt messages on his phone or chat. They would see each other during the week or weekends behind my back and so forth. When I ask him he gets mad and says that they are friends and I can´t understand, but I tell him if you are just friends why do you have to be so sneaky and do things behind my back. Of this I get no answer. The other day she called his phone and I answered I gave him the phone and when he realized I had just answered he hung up, got upset that I had answered the phone and said a relationship with me is no longer worth it. I asked what is wrong if I answer your phone, you are just friends... since almost 3 days ago that that happened I have not spoken to him or heard from him. What hurts is that he makes me feel guilty for something I believe I did no wrong in answering the phone especially when he had stated that he wanted to really do things right and get serious. what should I do. Was I wrong was I not understanding. And why before every time I would leave him because of her he would come begging back just to do the same. Read more: My boyfriend still talks to his ex-girlfriend, even though he knows it hurts my feelings. He says they're just friends. What should I do? | Answerbag http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/11507#ixzz1Gg7ThUCn

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When I broke up with my ex it took me a good two years to get over. I just realized he was not the one for me and that special someone will come to me one of these days. Personally, after I broke up with my ex I looked and searched for a new guy and all I found was bad ones, until six months ago I finally told myself I am done with guys. When it is time God will send me the right guy, then like one month after saying that I met back up with this guy I use to work with and I had a huge crush on. He asked me out and it was so weird he just got out of a 2 yr relationship and I was just patiently waiting for someone. We fell in love and that is pretty much what happened. If you dont feel like this guy your with is the one for you; dont keep leading him on be honest with him, and if you still love your ex talk it over with him. AND JUST BE PATIENT AND THE RIGHT ONE WILL COME TO YOU!!! Hope this helps!!!

dancngurl94

What was the reason you broke up with your bf in the first place??? That is something you really need to consider as to why you can't seem to get over him... Now onto your topic of NEW LOVE. If your trying to find love usually you end up with all of the wrong guys because perhaps they fill one aspect of something you like in finding a partner but not all...The best way to find someone is not not even look period...I know its difficult but guys can sense when someone is genuinely just interacting and being friends or when someone is straight up looking for someone to date... Hang out with friends, talk with friends, perhaps branch out and join a club of some sort to meet people you don't know that may have similar interests as you....Once you feel that you have grown as an individual and completely love yourself as well then you'll find hopefully what your looking for...Also if you compare every guy that you meet or date to you EX you will never find happiness because face it its not your ex and no guy or girl for that matter ever wants to be compared to an EX its kind of a slap in the face and instills doubt in the person. And your not being fair to your current relationship if your not committed to it fully and he can probably sense that as well. I believe you can find happiness again which may turn into love but you need to be patient and not try to rush things to find it it will happen when your least expecting it. Ex. I was dating a guy for almost three years and I just was not happy anymore and he knew it too and tried lots of things but didn't work so we ended it more so on my doing not his. I missed having someone to have around but knew I needed time for myself to figure out what i really wanted to do with my life. It had been about 2 years and I was invited by some girlfriends to go away for a weekend getaway a girls weekend so to speak. While at our destination we met a few people some guys and some girls that were from around where we were from and struck up conversations and even went out with them to enjoy the sites. We had a great time and never thought we'd see these people again....Well facebook is a wonder and one of the guys messaged me saying he enjoyed our convos and we kept talking finding out we had alot in common and just developed a friendship well three years later we have been dating and I love him with all of my heart. There are no expectations on marriage or kids we just enjoy spending time with one another, and whatever happens happens. I was not looking for anything and it just happened. Hopefully this gives you a glimmer of hope that you can as well. good luck

Genuinelyinterested

Instead of looking for men to fill that "hole" your Ex had, go have fun/chat with your friends, and when you're ready to accept the fact that you can move on, you can start looking for another man

Nakasyi

I was with my ex for 10 years at one point i thought id never be with anyone else but when we did split up i went out with friends and enjoyed myself then it was only a few months later when i met someone else. ive got 2 children now and i would never of thought i would of had children with anyone else but it happened and im happy. You can be happy and you can find love again. you say your ex is still in your life, maybe you need to distance yourself from him if you cant move on with him in your life.

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