My ex said mabey we'll work things out one day not now, i have alot of other stuff to deal with right now. what can i do is it over?

What she was really saying was goodbye. She is not interested in being in a relationship with you. She is moving on and will be back with you if things don't work out with her finding someone else. She wants you to sit and wait just in case.

give her space, except that it is over, tell her your there if she needs support but thats all you can do for now

There's no easy way to put this, but the line "maybe someday it will work out but not now" is only a line that makes it easier for someone to end the relationship. Imagine you're trying to end a relaitionship and the other one won't let go... wouldn't you say something like this in hopes they would just accept it and move on? You owe it to yourself... never wait around for anyone, because there are a lot of fish on the sea.

They say you always hurt the ones you love..... this isn't any solution, at best some sort of explanation...... maybe she pushed you away because of these things going on in her family. But at the same time you could try and sympathize with her situation, your life shouldn't be tooled with this much and over such an extended amount of time. Not to mention that if you are a couple, she should want you around in tough times, even if she needs moments alone, she should always come back to you in the end. That's actually more common decency than anything else. I've pushed friends away sometimes, and I will call them up in a week or so and correct things. There comes a point were your devotion will have long lasting effects on your life and psyche so it is your call when you cut the cord and bail.

Move on Romeo, its over.