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I cheated on my bf and I COMPLETLY regret it. If I tell him I know he will dump me..how do I get rid of this guilt? More info in description

  • I love my bf so much...we had gotten into a fight and I thought we would end up breaking up and I think thats why I didn't say no to the other guy. But even then, I have never cheated on anyone before and idk what was wrong with me! A stupid fight should've never led me to that decision and all i've done is cry about it ever since. i don't like the guy I cheated on my bf with at all, and all I want to do is go back and make that night disappear! my bf is the sweetist man alive but his last gf cheated on him and he said that it took him months to get over what she did to him and he said the only way he would ever break up with me is if I cheated...plz, I have no clue wat to do! how do I get rid of this guilt?

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    This is a pretty touchy topic and you're going to get people judging you and giving you advice from one end of the spectrum to the other. Here's how I see it... and you can take this for what it is... just my opinion. 1. You cheated. It wasn't a good thing to do, but you're human. It's not the end of the world, and if you really do regret it, learn from it and make sure you never do it again. 2. Telling your boyfriend will help no one. People confess to cheating to clear their own conscience, but it ends up hurting the person they tell. Keep your mouth shut. It won't do him an ounce of good to find out about it, and it won't help your situation, either. If you're honestly in love with this guy, and if he's honestly in love with you... your relationship will have a better chance of lasting if he never knows about this. Make damn sure you never cheat again, and move forward. 3. You feel guilty... good. Again, you're human... congratulations. If you didn't feel guilty there would be something seriously wrong with you. Let yourself feel the guilt. Acknowledge your shortcomings, learn from your mistakes, and make some goals. One of those being (hopefully) to never cheat again. The feelings of guilt should fade in time, but hopefully they'll never completely go away. That way, any time you feel like cheating again you'll remember how shitty you felt the last time and avoid it.

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Ok there is a time to tell the truth and a time to keep it to yourself...if it will do nothing more than cause him pain, then it serves no purpose to tell as the guilt is your burden and only you can come to terms with it...nothing anyone says can change that...the real question is can you live with a lie and guilt...as that is what you will have to do if you do not tell.. If you can't why hurt him with the fact that you cheated, break up with him and move on and don't hurt him just to make yourself feel better...

Sphynx_Lady

You shouldn't get rid of the guilt. What you did was wrong. You should feel guilty. But hopefully, you learned that you don't like yourself when you do things like this and not do it again. Make that the positive thing that came out of this. Hopefully, your boyfriend won't find out ... but you never know. You'll have to decide if it's worth chancing that he won't .. or come clean with him and see what happens. Put yourself in his place and decide what you'd want to have happen at this point.

Mrs. Cleaver

Don't tell him, and don't do it again.

Kylroy

As a man who has cheated many times, it may make me sound like a hypocrite but if a woman ever confesses to me that she cheated I would break up with her before she finished getting the words out of her mouth. Most men have a very hard time believing their woman would be capable of such a thing so it's not something we would be looking for. So if you just keep your mouth shut he will never be the wiser. What we don't know won't hurt us.

pantherman43

sorry to say this girl but as a man that has been cheated on before. it will come out one day and it will hurt more that u hide it from him on top of what else he would feel. its best to tell him and hope u can work out the issues afterwards. but i say this he will always feel like he wasnt enough.

guardman 22

If you tell him you'll be clearing your conscience and dooming your relationship. HE WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND!! You'll get over it in time..... and don't confide in anyone! Then your only problem is the other guy blabbing.

J and B

first, I abhor it when someone says they love someone so much yet they cheat ...excuse me, thats not love.... the only way to rid yourself of guilt is fess up.......if you get dumped just remember it was all your fault with your bad behavior....but I would feel worse by being so deceptive ......

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