Is there anything like this?

Why can't you just understand that i don't like doing anything, its not you!?

• When i was younger i would go out all the time. Socialize, be spontaneous and do anything at all. Now I'm 36 and i hardly go out at all. I feel rather content staying at home. I don't care about going out to party unless I FEEL LIKE IT, not when people ask. In general, i just don't even want to leave the house to do anything or hang out with my friends.. i suppose friends get offended because they ask a lot and i'm always turning them down.. Its not that i don't like them its just i don't wanna do anything unless i feel like doing so.. I really don't know when it began but its just seemingly how i am now, the older you get, you get set in yr ways..people don't seem to understand and i really have a hard time trying to explain myself. I will do things when i have it in me but these days i don't like anything spontaneous, i don't like plans because i fixate on them and usually back out.. i let a lot of people down and it really sucks, people take it personally.. but if this is where i am most content why is it so bad, and why can't people understand??

• Answer:

  It sounds like you're a bit depressed. When friends ask you out, what do you say? Do you realize that they will stop calling if they're repeatedly turned down? Would that bother you? What if you're "in the mood" but no one calls? Sooner or later that's what will happen. I'm not saying that you should go out and party if you don't want to, but are you truly happy being home alone, or is it depression that's keeping you from having a social life?