Life fallen apart pleaseee help

I think Wynper answered the practical aspects of this question very well, so I'll focus on the emotional/cognitive aspects. Big First Thing to Understand: there is NOTHING "wrong" with you. You are suffering from an enormous amount of stress. You have one recently-deceased loved one. You have another that may pass away soon. You have two more who are definitely ill. You have two more who are probably ill (your depressed mother and your probably-depressed father). You have financial difficulties. You have school stresses. You have peer group stresses. You have your own medical problems. You're not eating. You're not sleeping. That's an awful lot for any 13-year-old to bear. That's a lot for any person, regardless of age, to bear. It would take a person of superhuman willpower and six-sigmas-from-average optimism bias to not become depressed in your situation. If you can get access to mental health professionals who can help you with depression, please do it. Check with your school nurse. He/she probably can direct you to services that are free or low-cost. If you can't get access, here are a few tips that ***might*** help your condition. At the very least, they will do no harm. ---Actively appreciate what you do have. Tell all of your loved ones every day that you do love them, and spend a few moments thinking about how much you love them. If there are other things in your life that you enjoy (or did enjoy before the stress overwhelmed you), take some moments to appreciate those things and think about the joy they bring you. ---Go for a walk...EVERY DAY! If you can do this walk in sunshine, that would be doubly good. It doesn't have to be a long walk. Twenty minutes is probably enough to provide most of what you need. This bit of physical exercise will help you relieve stress and gives your brain a dose of feel-good endorphins. ---Make sure you get your food and rest, even if you have to "force" yourself. Depriving your body and brain of food and sleep just makes them that much weaker and less able to deal with huge stresses you have in your life. ---Mentally recast your struggle. Right now, you're thinking of your situation as "I have all these problems. Why can't I deal with them?". Instead, you should look at it as "Wow, I have all of these intense problems. It's amazing that they haven't completely broken me yet. I must be a strong and valuable person to have held up so far!" Try to think of every day that you don't give in to your stresses as a victory. Every day you get up out of bed and do the best you can with the crappy hand life has dealt you is a triumph. You're in an epic struggle, and every day you survive to fight again is like the Spartans holding off the Persians at Thermopylae. Good luck. I hope things get better for you soon.

It's really unfortunate you're having to go through so much at such a young age. So many teens and kids see things that they just shouldn't have to. It seems really tough right now, I know, and you are in for some more of the storm. You have more things to see and learn, and you've made it so far already. You have more rough times ahead, but you're definitely a strong person and you're going to be okay. You've got to keep fighting off the the evil and negative feelings that are trying to take hold of you. There is a negative presence that is after you and you have to fight it. If you want help there are places to find it. Getting help is okay and it can help keep the evil and negative things away from you so that you can come out strong and experienced. I suggest using the services suggested by Wynper, they are great ones to use. I wish you luck in the big bad world, and I really hope you make it out.

please dont think about commiting suicide. i met a boy yesterday that said he is going to commit suicide today at 5 o-clock when he gets home unless somebody can give him a good enough reason not to. i have been trying my hardest to stop him but i dont think it worked.and i dont want to see another person go. he was only 15. Life will get better. i dont know what to say other than pray for your sister or grandma. but your dad will find another job, the economy is improving, and your moms depresson will fade. if you do something as drastic as suicide you will devastate your family. if you commit suicide you are telling your younger siblings it is ok to do that and they will most likely fallow. you have to be strong for them and always poind out the positives in your life and forget all of the negatives. if you dont want to be at home stay after school and try and get those grades pulled up. you need to keep them up that way you can get a good job and provide the best for your kids just as your parents want for you. they love you. just remember to smile even in hard times.

The first thing that came to mind was to see your school counselor. I worked in special and psychological services in the public schools for years, and we were always talking to kids who needed us. There are all kinds of resources that the counselors can help you with, both in the schools, and the community. If you have a minister, talk to him or her, or go and find one. My church has always been like an extended family. Let your family know that you care, and don't be afraid or hesitant to tell them that you're hurting; they may not realize how traumatized you are right now. And, I really hope you have friends who will care for you, this is when you find out who your friends really are. Also remember this, you probably want to help your family and do all you can, but make some time to chill, and not with drugs either. Just let your parents and family know that you are supportive, I really believe it will make you all closer. Stay in touch.

i know how you feel, your deeply depressed, and feel liek you cant take it anymore, want out on life....iv had suicidal thoughts too..never managed to do it, i was the same exact age too! but, i took advice from friends and on sites, they really talked me through it (and my life has changed ever since then,i am loving life sooo much right now), i suggest you to do the same, and take the advice from the other wonderfull answers that A.B has given you:) and i hope the best for you!!!!

Some of us have to go through bad times, too bad you are so young - please contact your church and see if they can help!

I am sorry that all these things are happening in your life. That is so unfair, you must be in a huge amount of pain and very confused. I don't think there is anything you can "do" about these things, so many of them are out of you direct control. The one thing I can say for sure sweetie is don't cut yourself, or think of hurting yourself in any way. I know you are looking for relief from your pain, but in reality cutting is no way to handle your problems. You may not be scarred yet, but the more you cut the higher the chance you will scar, and even worse you could seriously hurt yourself. Your family needs you now, so try to be there for them, and try to find things to do that are safe and help you to feel more relaxed and in control. Don't stop feeding your body either, that is another thing that can cause serious problems. Please try to know in your big, brave heart that it will get better. I know that even though you are only 13 you have had happiness in your life. Try to remember how you felt the last time you were truly happy. Remember that you can be that happy again. Life is long, it is difficult sometimes. If it weren't difficult then you wouldn't be able to tell when your life is good. Remember that no matter what if you weren't here there are people that would miss you. They would be left behind to wonder if they were part of why you hurt yourself. Life is hard, don't make it harder on yourself or your family by hurting yourself, when you do that you also hurt the people who care about you. Try to either make up with your friend or make new, better friends. Find a support group for kids who are going through one or more of the same issues you are dealing with. And remember that even though I don't know you, I care about what you do. I will hope that you are able to get through this to have another day of laughter in your life.

I am sorry you are in this spot. My brother had this disease and with the help of chiropractic manipulation he was helped. Never too late for any person to get some degree of help. The loss of job and Ins could work to benefit. Will make family eligible for medical care and emergency money for bills, food and other. Large enough family to get benefits and allow some standard of living. Surgery on your foot can be covered as well as after treatments and medication. It will all work out, just will take a little time. Suggest to mom and dad to apply now and get things moving. No one will starve and a family of your size will get help. Some things might change, but it will work out for your family. At 13 you should not worry with fixing the problems of the family. Need to worry about your foot and school. Is more important now than ever to get a good education. Help around your house and do your school work. Get some exercise as you can and spend some time reading. Every person needs some escape from life's problems. Reading might help and the exercise will help you sleep. One day your education could make things better for your family and could allow you to help your siblings. One of the best things now is helping your siblings with school work and more. Remember your family loves you and do not want you to place the burden of all on yourself. I have a daughter close to your age and I sure would like to know if she were shouldering this. Talk with your family and I wish you well.