If a woman has sex with an unconsious man, how is that any less of a rape than the other way around?

That is clearly rape, and personally, I know few women who would dispute that. But, according to some of the answers here, apparently some do dispute it.

If it really happened, its rape. I kinda find it hard to believe though.

Well, it's not rape because it's his girlfriend and he probably enjoyed it... I mean, if he was pissed, it was probably just because he missed it. And this might be tmi, but my live-in boyfriend does that to me allll the time lol. I don't consider it rape either. I'm a heavy sleeper and he likes to see how far he can get before i wake up...it's awesome when i wake up. The only reason it would be considered rape is if he objects. Of course, he can't object in his sleep. But i don't think he would if he could. Now if you're just finding random stragers passed out, and having sex with them without their knowledge or concent...that is rape.

I say raping an unconscious male is science fiction. Unless you did it anally, then I think he's wake up. A lot of things, biologically, emotionally, mentally and hormonally have to happen in order for a man to get it up, if you will pardon the expression. Strange, but true. That is why I don't lend any credibility to this idea. .

I would think that would be rather hard to rape an unconscious man.If he was passed out from drinking or drugs.Most men can't get an erection if their mind is clouded.But if asleep,they will wake up.

I guess I don't understand why he was angry. Did she not use protection? Was there some reason he didn't want to have sex with her? It's his GF so obviously he finds her attractive. I suppose no guy will consider it rape because we can't relate. A girl having sex with us is a girl doing something fun and nice for us. I really can't put myself in his shoes at all unless he had expressed a desire to not have sex at some point or if there was an issue of fear of disease or pregnancy. And yes I understand there's a total double standard that if the situation was reversed the man would be instantly considered a rapist.

That is absolutely rape. You cannot consent if you are not conscious. Unless it is something that has been discussed that the person has previously stated that they enjoy, that can be taken as part of their particular relationship. Otherwise it is assault.

The only problem I have with calling this specific situation rape is that if the genders were reversed, it actually wouldn't seem like rape to me. What I mean is, if my husband decided to wake me up by having sex with me (starting while I was asleep, you know), I wouldn't consider it rape. It would actually be pretty sexy. (Being married to him doesn't change the situation for me, btw, I would have felt the same if I was answering this question while he was still just a boyfriend.) I'm not saying that it's impossible to be raped by a boyfriend/girlfriend... if my husband wanted sex and I told him no, he'd have to respect that. If he forced it, that would be rape. But he doesn't need to ask my permission first every time he wants to make a move on me; the permission is already implied unless I revoke it. And I see this situation as falling more into that category. She didn't specifically get permission to have sex with him that one time, but if they're having consensual sex on a regular basis I can see why she might not have thought she needed to. My husband definitely wouldn't need to. Of course if it had been any other girl who did this, yeah, it's automatically rape. Or if they weren't already sexually active, or even if he had a history of saying "no" when she wanted sex. If she had any reason whatsoever to even suspect that he might not be ok with this, then my opinion would change drastically. (And maybe she did! I have no idea.) And even with the situation as it is now, if he FEELS raped, then she needs to respect how he feels and never do it again, and apologize for doing something that hurt him even if that wasn't her intent. If she's still brushing aside his feelings and refusing to take responsibility for her actions, then she is a bad person regardless of anything else. Edit: After reading some of your comments, WAS she trying to avoid waking him up? Because if so, that DOES change things. I had assumed that she was hoping to wake him with sex and it just didn't actually happen until toward the end.