When someone cheated on you and you take them back. My girlfriend did this. How do you trust again? How do you make the bad thought go away? How do you trust your partner again? What do you do? How do you do it? THANK YOU:)

To be honest it is very hard... Time..this is not to say it can not be done , because it can. future behavior is usually predicted by past behavior, though. so good luck. the thoughts. are sheer will...

I've been through this. If you love her, you can forgive and forget, like I have. However, there will always be a doubt in your mind when things are not going well or if she does something that does not make alot of sense to you (cell phone dies, goes out with a friend and sleeps at their house, etc...). While I love her with all my heart, every now and then I wonder. My head tells me she will do it again, I chose to follow my heart. But only forgive it once.

Trust to me is the biggest and most important thing for a couple to lose. It takes time and a bunch of work on everyones side to get back what at one time they had. One way in which she may start to trust him is if he is open about everything and proves everything, if he understands the reward he may just put in the effort and work into this. It is so caring of you to be looking out for your friend. Be there for her even if he doesnt do what it takes to earn her trust back, meaning hold her hand, tell her you know how she is feeling, tell her you know that this is hard on her and you just want her to be happy and proud. There is a website that you and she may totally love , its called http://www.FeelBetterNetwork.com and it has experts who give great advice on such matters. I think you should both check it out. Keep your mind on the positive and I hope the best for both of you. Stay strong.

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It is very hard, and the truth is I don't think you will ever regain full trust in that person ever again. Whenever things get rough, or arguments arise, it's always there. It's possible to forgive, but not possible to forget. You have to love that person very very much and truly believe it was a mistake that they are truly sorry for...but even then... It's really hard.

Time will tell. Depends on the make up and the attitudes of the two.

well first of all the once a cheater always a cheater mentality has to be nipped in the butt. otherwise by subtle suggestion the cheater may actually believe they are still capable of cheating. the girlfriend who forgave must truly forgive it is very important if she says she forgives you that she does just that and never brings up this thing again. she can no longer use this against you again once she says "I forgive you for cheating on me" otherwise you should be the one getting mad. you cannot grow if your being held down by baggage she wont leave behind. you cannot move forward if your past is holding you back. don't allow it men and women fight like you fought for the women you love fight for the trust let your partner know that this continual disrespect for a dismissed issue is not tolerated and ultimately you can and will end the relationship if it continues.