How do you tell the difference between "Jealousy" and "Your Instinct That Something Is Wrong"? In other words, how do you tell when you are just be overly sensitive or they are actually cheating on you? Can your gut tell the difference?

I think your gut has a pretty good instinct. I am only talking from experience. I was with a girl for three years. And for three years she told me how great I was and that she wanted to marry me. Last year I started to have a funny feeling. Then I found out in October she had been cheating on me. So I think your gut knows a lot. But I am also pessimistic when it comes to relationships.

When you act like this in fear and constantly fret, you can make something negative happen. You draw the thing you fear the most. I'm not making up some new age crappola. I have seen people behave this way and then it happens. The reason is because it changes your behavior and your partner is going to react. After awhile, you can become a real drag to be around. If there is no reason to feel this way but you are worried how you would feel if it did happen, let it go. If you have a nagging feeling that your gut is telling you something,then you need to listen, you are probably right.

Honey, if I knew the answer for that question I would be very, very happy. My mind can be very persuasive at times and it drives my boyfriend nuts. I think I can tell the difference when I'm calmed and rational instead of sad and negative. I tend to judge my actual relationship based on that bunch of idiots I dated before and that's plain wrong. When there are no consistent signals, it's me being overly sensitive. In my case that's every single time >.<