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How can I get through the msn games?

How do i get a date if i'm a virgin shy unattractive dork?

  • First of all i admit i'm unattractive, my face is unsymmetrical, but i am also a huge nerd I literally only have like 2 friends who are also dorky types (computer science major) and (math major) I am an engineering major. There are no girls in my classes (very few). I am intelligent IQ of 126 and dean's honor roll in engineering at a prestigous canadian university. However I have never been on a real date, I get really nervous with attractive girls because in highschool goodlooking girls used to hit on me and they turned out to be kidding the whole time breaking my heart with all the other kids laughing at me. I was picked on alot by everyone and had no friends. That scared me away from ever talking to attractive girls, I get tense, dry mouthed, embarassed and have feelings of dispair when they are gone, i know that stuff doesn't happen in university but I still do not know what i'm going to do. Put yourself in my shoes, I have only 1 friend i hang around with alot and my other friend plays warcraft 24/7 and wouldn't have a clue how to get girls. I really have no idea what i'm going to do, my 14 year old cousin has more experience with girls then i do and i am 8 years older than him. Please tell me something realistic that i can do, online dating does not work for me, the girls are too afraid of my picture. I am nicer to meet in person but I don't know how to start. I've never partied or been to a club, I spent every weekend at home playing online games, painting my warhammer 40,000 figures or trading magic cards. If anyone has msn please e-mail me if you are willing to help, I have nobody that can help me out with this. I am in unchartered territory, honest to god I need someone's step-by-step personal help as all my friends are also single virgins.

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    I've a friend who is a member of Expansive Love, a yahoo group that she likes. One of the members say this quote. I edited the name since I know they want privacy, so if you want to find out who this person is, you will have to join the yahoo group. Let me know if this helps. Also, I have a feeling of the movie I Love Beth Cooper in your question. "Opportunities are what you make of them. South African golfer Gary Player once made a spectacular drive from the tee to the green, and a spectator said "What a lucky shot!" Player responded with, "You're right. But the funny thing is, the more I practice the luckier I get!" I've also counseled a number of people who told me that they couldn't get dates. I gave them an assignment to collect 30 consecutive turndowns. So far, none have succeeded." M. Rios

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I see that you also have to work on your confidence too. About your looks, well maintaining good hygiene and working out could be a good alternative.

retrofretz

You have a decision to make. Would you rather be OK with some of the inevitabilities of life, or would you rather beat your head against the wall trying to find one of the rare exceptions to Opus Law? Either way, you'll have a lot of work to do. Go down the "I'm OK with what is" path, and you might find some emotional peace and learn some interesting things about the world. Go down the the other path and you might get laid, but the chances are low. You will also spend a great deal of time fighting against your true nature and dealing with a lot of BS advice (either genuinely well-intended, or simply designed to prey on your desperation) that will attempt to convince you that repeated and documented observations of Reality are not so. I wish you the best of luck, whichever path you chose to pursue. Note: Opus' Law appears in the cartoon below

Old School - Doing daily battle with SKOS

Just be nice work out some drop the online games. Don't be fake and talk to girls. Go for one that is at your level. You're going for an engineering degree right? Girls will like that. Also at your age looks don't matter as much as at my age. (I'm 15)

Devil Dog

Be yourself and if that doesn't work be someone else. Work toward success for yourself and the women will come probably after the money does. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin it will keep you out of trouble.

Weylon

you have to find a gf as ugly as you,cause I know mate,that's the only thing you can do.

holy_melon

You need to get used to talking to girls. If the online dating didn't work out - try it again. Don't post a picture immediately as girls can be shallow at times (post one when you get chatting to someone) but do go onto sites where you're likely to meet someone with similar interests to yourself. Being a virgin may seem like a big deal, but it really isn't. When you meet someone who does respect you for who you are then you'll find that your lack of experience is actually a bonus - you don't have any bad habits and you can learn with a mature head, instead of a teenage one! There are classes as well in dating - try to research those and see if there are any singles nights out in your area. Not every girl is drop dead gorgeous and untouchable. Most of us are perfectly normal and approachable. You will get knocked back, but don't take it as a failure, take it as experience and learn from it. If you really are the great guy you say you are then you'll not have a problem. Good luck. You can message me if you want and I'll try to help.

Little Miss Sunshine

First off, I love geeks! For real, they turn me on. My boyfriend and I both have high IQs, and are well read. I can not fathom hooking up with anyone who doesnt have atleast a little geek in them ( but most people do)! Plus I was a total science geek in school! Secondly... just be you! If you think you are awesome other people will too! Chances are you are not getting the chicks because you put yourself down, most of us hate that! Get out of your comfort zone and try new things, it will help you meet the ladies. The key is to screw what others think, and know you are badass! Take it from a chubby science geek that gets asked out all the time ;)

lalalala

Pay for it.

The_Crown

start with the non-hot girls, for practice

purplecows

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