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Is a radiographer a good career?

Why do ppl call me selfish for preferring a good career over a good marriage? Ppl are unreliable, r they not?

  • I mean, ppl think I'm selfish for feeling that if I had to choose, a good job/career would win over having a good marriage. Am I really selfish? b/c ppl are unreliable at best, treacherous and selfish at worst, and thus, I feel that a good career and job will save you in tough times, whereas a marriage and kids may or may not. Ppl divorce even after decades of marriage, so there are no guarantees. I've sen even the NICEST ppl abandon their spouses for selfish reasons. Yes, ppl do lose jobs, but if you have had one for years & made good money, and saved money, then it will help you when you're unemployed & pay the bills, cuz let's face it, love and care(from marriage) do NOT pay the bills. A good career puts food on the table, which you need before anything else. We know that money is a top reason for divorce, so am wrong to rather want a great professional life over a great personal life? Thus, am i really selfish for this?

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    If they are calling you selfish over that, it's probably because they just don't agree with you because they see the world differently. Personally, I understand where you are coming from. It seems like even the marriages that look the best from the outside aren't safe from divorce. This is very discouraging to me and it sounds like it's discouraging to you as well. Having a decent amount of money that was honestly earned seems better than having to live with the devastating heartbreak that can be caused by a potential divorce.

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Before you can have a good marriage, a family, or back yourself up in case of marital disintegration, it is a good bet to have a "career".

More2Be

Because they're judgemental, don't listen to them.

Temporary Name

Don't know who would call you that. But if they did. They are picks, and pricks should not have input anywhere.

styxxoo1

You have preconceived notions about married life that woud definitely work against you if you married; so perhaps you'd be better off to dedicate yourself to your career. Most likely you would make a rotten spouse and perhaps a worse parent.

Bitto

i don't think its selfish .....you prefer a career over marriage.....most can't have both so its good to realize it beforehand....

thatsJustme

Are you looking for discussion or for justification?

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