How to make change in a team?

How do I have sex with my best friend He and I are 16 and on the swim team and he always watches me change and we always check each other out in speedos but I think he's afraid to make the 1st move?

• Answer:

  Why is it up to him to make the first move? You could be the one to break the ice. Assuming you are both interested, you both have the same concerns. Will you be rejected? Talked about? At 16, you may not be ready to come out. Everyone's situation is different. Away from the pool, you can ask if he has ever considered doing it with another guy. See what his response is. Most if not all guys have some experience with another guy at some point. Next time you think he's checking you out and no one is watching, adjust yourself and see what his response is. When you are alone and you feel you want to take the chance, tell him you would really like to have sex with someone. He takes the hint or doesn't.