I am going for a Master's abroad and I intend to get a job there. My girlfriend wants to stay in India to practice medicine after her MD. She is constantly asking me to break up since the last 2 months, but also gives lots of mixed signals. I am madly in love with her. How do I make this work?

Don't be a jerk, switch career to medicine, or medical related field if you really love her that much. Or finance, every doctor needs someone to run the business side of medical practice. I don't know how much doctors earn in India, but probably enough she could help to pay off your student loans and live comfortably. On the other hand you could take a risk and do what you want, if she loves you perhaps she will come back to you after you get your degree, if not, there are several billion women on the planet, move on to someone less rigid, marry someone from a lower caste to show your parents the error of their antiquated thinking!

The easiest way to decide what you truly want. Take a coin and choose each side as to what you want. Heads for US, Tails for GF. (Or do it the other way doesn't matter) Toss the coin . . . . . . . . . . . . . . And catch it in your hand but don't see what it is. Now ask yourself what you (desperately) want it to be. Heads or Tails? And then walk off without seeing which side actually showed up.

Ok, do the following activity. Take a piece of paper, make two columns, 1) Go to U.S. and 2) Stay here and be with her. Now, write down the possible things that could happen in each section if you choose one. ( everything - positive, negative, consequences). write down all the possible things that can happen in your life if you choose that option. Now you have a clear-cut picture of possible out comes that can happen. Think upon it, what actually you want from your life. Ask these question to yourself (and write down the answers if you can) 1. Do I really love her so much that I can sacrifice my career dream. 2. Does she loves me so much, that she will be broken if i leave her and go. 3. Is there any possibility from the above points through which we both can be happy (if not today, maybe in future) 4. Can we have a successful long distance relationship. 5. Is there a sure shoot chance that if I apply to that university I will be admitted. Now my personal opinion; See dude, at the end of the day you have to make some decision. so before you do so analyze all possibilities because there is no coming back, once something is lost it will never come back. According to me best thing that you can do if you choose to go U.S. Why to end such a beautiful relationship (if you actually believe in it). Test your love. Convince her that, If you truly love each other than you can have a long-distance. Promise her that you will come back after four years and marry her (and do so). If that doesn't work and you break up when you are in U.S., anyways accept it then and move on. Don't pre-judge things, let time take its course of actions. (Disclaimer: According to the stat possibility of successful log-distance relationships is very less) Or If you really feel bad to leave her and go and same is the case on other side. Than my friend I'll advise you that, forget about higher studies (for now). If you will never live happy without her than whats the point in earning huge money. If you wont have the person on whom you will like to spend that money, growing high in career, if you will not be happy as you will be with this person. As you said, you have a good education background, good job. So stay here, gain some more years of experience, marry her. Fucking your present in the hope of better future is not at-all a good decision. what if you go to the U.S. and then feel that you have taken a wrong decision? There will be no coming back dude. but if you stay here for few more years, you can still go for your higher studies in future. At that time you can take her along, she will be your wife....or you may have something other interesting things to do... Now, its your turn to think and decide. PM me if this helps you in some way. Because.....read by bio :)

Dude, Before reading anything below, Go and watch the last Scene of the Movie Pyaar ka Punchnama, starting from the Song Baanwre, also if you really want a solution, watch the whole movie. She'll always have an option. Especially in Long distance relationships. Am no agony aunt or Relationship expert, but a sound advice. Mumbai - Gurgaon is a long distance for many couples, meeting twice in 2 months.  You are going Abroad, so think of it. Get over her. It's difficult, we all know. People will tell you to divulge in other activities and take your mind off, and that time heals all wounds. That is shit. At the end of the day, you keep thinking about her and frustrate yourself and the task in hand, you tend to mess up that manytimes. Go hard on yourself, destroy all feasible artefacts shared between you guys and in your possession currently. Block her from stalking you on social media including WhatsApp and her calls, also make sure you put a blocker for her profile on Facebook, Twitter,  that would prevent you from checking her updates for first few months. 1 Pro tip: Uninstall Instagram or stop following her, she'll make you go bonkers with all her good pics, her new guy and how happy she is,  that would remind you of her. Yes, take up a sporting activity. Preferably Football or Badminton, that'll make you tired and at the end of the day, you sleep of tiredness and not with her mingling thoughts. Don't ever think of opening up to any new girl you interact with about your ex. You can do that with any of your Bros,  though. Succeed in life, You'll find a deserving girl in the whole process as you go abroad and study there. And when you are at the top, You'll realise that if she really wanted it to work out, she would have managed with you going abroad some how. Then when you are the peak of your life probably 29-30s, update your Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp Status indirectly meant for her if you want. I suggest to be silent and not to open up private stories to public world. You are in that phase in life, when you are thinking your life is like "Rehna Hai Tere Dil Mein", wake up to reality and realise it's going the "Pyar Ka Punchnama" way. The last para in you description truly should have made your mind by now to get going and succeed in life.  Disclaimer: Am not a Misogynist.

Never compromise your career for love , especially this commercialized love which we call THE LOVE. "1. She now says that I was a 'mistake' and she should look for a doctor who will practice with her here. 2. Since I am quite literally the only person she is comfortable talking to, I don't want to end things to ensure that she doesn't mess up her exam due to frustration" Chances are there that you are being played with emotionally because she is jealous that you are going abroad. (1st line states otherwise) Or you are already in deep trouble that she is holding you by dog collar that she tied you.(2nd statement confirms it) or I may be completely wrong in judging the situation and you guys may be completely in love.(I'm sorry for my judgement, in that case). Ok!!.. Make note of these few points and decide for yourself  1) Are you sure she didn't fall for you for the status that you bring?       The reason why I point it out is, almost all indian girls fall into this category. They just want to feel above their girlfriends. They don't care a damn about you, it's all in the  conversations and nothing real. 2) Are you sure she didn't fall for you because she is lonely?     As you are the only person she talks to as you mentioned. If above are the cases, then BOOM!!! Good luck for your Masters Relationships these days not worth scratching your head, Go for your career. it's plain logical especially those who post questions in quora. They basically lack one thing - COMMUNICATION. The best thing you can do is- Ask your most trusted woman friend (if you've any). They are the best relationship advisers. "Best relationships are those who talk through any problem and help themselves." Decide for yourself. Good luck.

If you don't end up on good terms now, you are paving the path for all the usual misunderstandings that creep into long distance relationships. The break up will happen but not on a very good note. See, you both are just 2 people with different paths in life now so its fine if you part ways on a good note.

Take your girlfriend at her word. Move on, concentrate on your future and education. Maybe down the road the two of you may reconnect, maybe not. Appreciate your girlfriends honesty. Love is not a negotiation or a series of tests.

Suggest that she goes to the US for medical volunteering, some internship, anything that would keep her occupied and increases her chances for future studies there.