Is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out?

Is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out, more than once?

  • A girl asked a guy out once, but she was drunk. It did not go down well. She was sorry for it and took back her words. Now she is considering asking him out again. It has to be assumed that her feelings are genuine and she is really considering a steady relationship.

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    If guys gave up asking after being rejected the first time, our world population growth would approach zero. And if we're looking for gender equality, we're entitled to be just as big jackasses as they are. So in Val Cooper's Book of Principles, yes, it is okay for a girl to ask a guy out more than once.   However, there is no information in the question or details about how the guy feels about the girl's drunken dating request and what exactly "did not go down well." Did he say something like, "You're drunk, don't be silly?" (which makes him all the more desirable in my book). Then she could ask for clarification: "Did you mean that you're not at all open to a thing between us or just not when I'm shitfaced?" And take it from there. If he said, "No way, you're not my type," she should put her efforts where they are more readily appreciated and move on.

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Nope, the cap is set at one time per person per lifetime. So, this time was wasted (as girl was wasted at the time of asking). It is sad that it happened but there is a national registry for such metrics, and this girl is in it already - I just checked. And I am typing all this to tell you just how ridiculous you sound.

Margaret Weiss

There's nothing *wrong* with it, but I wouldn't do it.  He knows you are interested.  The ball is in his court, so to speak.  If I really liked him and thought he might like me too but is just really hesitant, I would say in a lighthearted way, "Hey, remember that time I was drunk and asked you out?  Why didn't you say yes?"  (Punch playfully in the arm.)  "Do you not find me attractive?"  Then he is free to say, "No, it's just that you were drunk and I wasn't sure you meant it," or, "Yes, you're attractive, but I don't like you in that way," or, "Hell yeah, I think you are attractive.  I've been kicking myself ever since for turning you down." His response will give you a good indication of whether it's worth a shot to ask him again.

Susan Smith

Yes, it is OK. But if he was turned off by your drinking, then be prepared for a no answer. Men might sleep with girls who get drunk, but they usually do not want to take them home to meet their mother. Be more discriminative in your drinking.

Charles Bollmann

Yes. I don't like that the girl is drunk here. Aside from that, she is doing it right. If you want something, you have to kill for it. Slay the guy if that's neccessary. Whatever it takes until he's yours. But you may find he isn't what he looked like before.

Peter Savin

The girl ought to ask him out when he is drunk this time.  If he seems cool while drunk, then she ought to ask again when both are sober just in case his coolness was a fluke.

Vince Parker

Sure it's OK, but I've never done it. Before I married, it was always my personal policy to ask a guy out 1st if I liked him but he'd not asked me, but the 2nd date was up to him to propose. I did that so I could quickly know whether he was truly interested.

Julie Kelemen

This all depends heavily on what is mean by "it did not go down well." Why didn't it go down well? Once you have answered that, whether she should try again will probably be obvious.

Kimberly Casey

We live in a liberal society. If a girl is asking out a guy, without any hideous intentions to kick his butt in the future then I think it is pretty much acceptable to approach your dream guy again. Remember No trend is trend unless someone sets it. Go for it girl, Be brave.:)

Abhinav Sirothia

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