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How do I get the time off my tv?

Every time I try to get close to my wife she makes up some reason not to be in bed with me, take a shower, watch tv, cook etc. What seems to be the problem and how should I act in this situation?

  • She never kisses me nor hugs me randomly anymore. If I go to her and kiss her or hug her 1 out of 5 times it is returned. I have tried everything, being romantic, taking her out, having good experiences together and have fun, But despite all these, there is lack of intimacy. Despite these we have a really good time together, we laugh and play, we talk and share but lack of intimacy. At night time she will do anything and everything to delay coming to bed so I fall sleep and comes into bed afterwards. I even tried talking to her to see what is bothering her but she refuses to speak about it, and usually says now is not the time or something in that line or changes the subject very sudden. It has been more than 2 months I have noticed these changes. How should I act ? I feel heartbroken like she doesn't love me anymore .... Which reminds me she hasn't said I love you in a long, long time.

  • Answer:

    Sounds like you need some counseling.  These things don't usually happen in a vacuum.  Maybe a third party can get the dialogue going.

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Assuming that she hasn't fallen for another man, I can see one other reason for her behaviour: Does she suffer from body image issues? Did she put on a lot of weight after marriage? May be she feels she is not sexy anymore. As her husband, you need to make sure to tell her that in your eyes, she is as beautiful as ever. Men usually don't bother too much with their wives' added weight, but women are very fragile when it comes to their physical shape. You need to reassure her until she gets your message and learns to love her body. Try to help her in weight management by eating the right foods (not "dieting"). Cut out all crappy fast foods and processed foods and colas. May be together you can address these health issues for both of you. Start going for walks together. Anyway, my answer is based on my own assumption. If it doesn't apply, we need to troubleshoot more. Please let me know any more details and I will give another shot.

Sai Nellore

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