My husband 52M has lost a really good job he was hired a month ago to work on after seven years of unemployment. I'm afraid he won't find another job like that and that he's going to spend his days couch sitting, watching soccer and doing internet surveys. How do I motivate him?
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Answer:
Remind him of his impending depression--that it will happen--and remind him that no matter how hard, the anger and energy he has now is his ally and will go away soon. He is literally racing against the clock before his hormones shut down. Taking a week or two off right now is suicide. He's gotta' read What Color is Your Parachute tonight and get to a job center tomorrow where he has to lock himself in, go to every support group, and handle his business before inertia sets in. Or, depending on how balanced your relationship is, disconnect the cable TV tonight, trade the alcohol for a case of red bulls, and tell him you don't care where he goes each day but he's gotta' be showered by 6:30AM and out of the house by 9:30 every day.
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Ask him... The top three target he wants to achieve .. 1 target - ask him 5 reason why he wants to achieve...and the step which can let him achieve... Col sanders was in the age of 74..when he started KFC. Remind him...no guts no glory....
Rohit Raaman
The answer an here are fine, but I suggest you focus on yourself. How can you stay positive about your family? What can you do to keep your own energy up through difficult times? Be supportive of your husband, but realize his depression and anxiety may need professional treatment. The truth is, you can only control yourself. So rather than focusing only on your spouse, you model the lifestyle you want your children to learn...and they will follow. Showing that hard work and relationships are the best things to focus on will help them grow into mindful, grounded adults. Encourage your husband to seek out counseling, while you try to keep home a loving and safe place for everyone.
Ian Bond
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