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How to deal with a bossy and irritating boss?

There's this guy who I used to be friends with but he became really bossy and started getting upset about how I interact with others as if he's the boss of me and he silently stalks my Facebook. What's up with him?

  • We got in an argument when he said I was irresponsible and manipulative when i asked him to defend me in a conflict (which he did defend me on his own volition and got in my face about it later) and as a result we haven't talked in months, and he moved away. However, he's been stalking my Facebook and just recently started giving me a mouthful about my conduct online like some kind of parent, even though we're the same age. I'm not doing anything inappropriate like posting nudes or anything. He got really mad and criticized me when I drew portraits of my friends in the debate team. He's also trashing me for my political opinions on my tumblr. (Which I have no idea how he got ahold of it...) What's up with him? He wasn't always like this and used to be really sweet and moderate.

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    Yes, I can tell you exactly what is wrong with this guy.  He is highly insecure, controlling and manipulative, has very little self respect or respect for you, and is paranoid and neurotic. He is emotionally unhealthy.  He would make your life a living hell were you to get anymore involved with him because he would think of you as his possession and subject you to the behavior of a dictator.  You would be his prisoner emotionally and everything you did would be perceived as a threat to him and his control over you.  He would denigrate you and beat down your sense of self worth.  He does not consider you his equal and he is really capable of possible violence in the future. What you have to do is figure out why being with him has been okay.  You need to evaluate your own sense of self worth, and self respect.  You need to figure out what you think you deserve in life. You need to step up here and realize he is your equal, not your crazy in-house stocker.  No self respecting female would get anywhere near this guy.  He's damaged goods. You have to realize you deserve to be loved, respected, and treated as an equal, not a child. Best of luck.  I hope you 'get' what is happening and choose happiness and freedom.

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As another answer states, he is controlling and manipulative and kind of scary. Have you tried blocking him? He might try using a different username, but it's worth a try; if I were you I'd block him from your Facebook, email, tumblr, and any other account of yours. He's trying to get a reaction from you, so I'd recommend not engaging with him at all. He does not sound like a person you can reason with. As to what caused the change ("he used to be sweet and moderate"), obviously I don't know for certain, but some people are nice at first, but then they start thinking of you as "theirs". Once they think they have you, they don't see a need to be nice anymore.

Lori Lucero

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