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How do I learn to accept love?

How do you learn to accept that someone loves you and they are not going to just use you, hurt you, and leave you? I am petrified and desperately want this love.

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    You don't. You can't. It's a risk you'll have to take, and there's no guarantee that even years down the line, when you think you two've gotten through all the shit the world threw at you, that she'll hurt you and leave you high and dry anyway.

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If you are "petrified" and "desperately want love", you are most likely not in a place to really recieve love, if it is healthy.  I was once that way myself, but it's not good for either you or the one you love, because you will drain each other until there is no love left.  There is too much pressure on the one who is "loved"-which is really more like unhealthy dependence-and/or your loved one might enjoy being the focus of your attention and begin to use your vulnerability to control you.  No one will be healthy or happy, trust me.  The best thing to do is work on developing yourself to be the healthiest you can be, both in and out of a relationship.  Once you are happy on your own, then you will be able to give/recieve love in a more balanced way, and will be truly ready for love.

Lynda Rubicz

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