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How do you fall out of love?

How do I fall in love with a person I have fallen out of love with?

  • I'm married to a person (for the last 6 years) that I've fallen out of love with and I am currently seeing someone else. I know this is cheating and its both terrible and wonderful. I love the attention and the love that I am getting from the 'other woman', but I want to make my marriage work. How do I fall in love with my wife again? EDIT 1: My wife is an emotionally insecure person. I have tried everything Niharika has suggested in bold. I think I have fallen out of love only because she is no longer the person she portrayed before marriage and I've lost my individuality. EDIT 2: I know I am cheating and I don't want a lesson on self esteem. Refrain from telling me what I am doing wrong but I would really appreciate it if you could tell me if there is scientifically proven way of understanding how we can fall in love with a person who we dont love anymore. If I am asking this on a forum like this it is because I want to make this marriage work, so please respect that and give me helpful answers.

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    We all spend time at various places with various people throughout our life . get affected attracted towards some people sometimes it is love or attraction I do not want to discuss here but whatever it is one thing we need to understand here if we are married we are committed to our spouce and these commitments makes our life lovely and beautiful. Be in friendship is not bad but make sure to understand the difference between friends and http://lover.it will give you the extreme and prolong pleasure which u even cannot earn through any other relationship.believe me you can have your wife as your best friend it depends on how you proceed with this relationship

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Infatuation, lust, romantic feelings—all of these are mistaken as love, or are viewed as necessary precursors to real love and entering into an intimate relationship with another human being . But the reality is  love isn’t an emotion or even a noun. It’s a verb . Because it is by our actions that we love and not by our words. Better defined as giving. As putting someone else’s needs above your own. Being sappy isn’t love. Telling someone you love them doesn’t mean that you do. From Disney movies to TV shows to every pop song released, love is constantly sold as an emotion we have before we’re married. It’s time that we change the conversation about love. It’s time that we redefine it. At present you may be enjoying the limelight with the new person you are associated with but then how can you guarantee it wont fade away.The feeling you have is infatuation .Love is making compromises for others who are with you, making them happy… “My friend, love is a verb. Love — the feeling — is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Take Your wife on dinner outing,help her with dishes .You will feel the same spark as you might have felt initially in your relationship with her(your wife) and you wont have to look to others for that.   PS::Inspired by “http://popchassid.com/didnt-love-wife/http://popchassid.com/didnt-love-wife/” by Elad Nehorai and   “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Seven_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People” Stephen Covey.

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