How can I make the guys I hang out with treat me like a woman and not like one of them?

I don't really know what "treating someone like a woman" involves. If they're behaving in a way you dislike, tell them so, and be specific. "I don't like it when you ____. Please don't do that around me."

I don't really understand your question. I would hate for my friends to single me out for being a woman. I'm just a person like them and I'd expect them to treat me as such. What exactly do they do that you don't like? You should specifically explain to them what part of their behavior bothers you.

Your personal boundaries need to be stronger... research them and practice. If {insert clearly defined unwanted behavior} continues I will {insert consequence} ... and then follow through every single time. If you don't follow through, it's just wishful thinking and weakens your position. If you do, it proves that you value yourself, and will insist on being respected. If you are yelling, I will end the conversation.

I need more information here. You're describing contradictory behavior, and I'm wondering what's missing. I really couldn't imagine why the guys would single you out and treat other girls with respect. And the obvious question is, if you don't wanna hear guys' banter (denigrating each other, sexist jokes, racist jokes, offensive jokes of all kinds--it's what we do) then why do you want to hang out with them at all?

If they say something that offends you or is inappropriate, just say, "And that's my cue to get out of here," in a friendly, joking way, and actually leave to go do something else. Eventually, they'll put two and two together and stop saying things of that nature, because they associate it with you leaving. Otherwise, a confrontation is inevitable. Either with them or with your boyfriend, to let him know that you get uncomfortable, and, hopefully, he intercedes on your behalf.

Stop hanging out with them. Your boyfriend and you should have your own time together and then you go and enjoy your girlfriends and he his mates. If you are hanging around the mates all the time, then that is how you will get treated. Just be thankful one of them hasn't hit on you and caused trouble by now.

Ah yes. One of the guys. As a girl who's always been "one of the guys," I can say that you have the opportunity for a very unique experience. Not a bad experience either! They're treating you as an equal, and that's awesome! Platonic female/male friendships are rad, and I've noticed that men and women are pretty much the same, just with some different opinions, insights, humor, favorite activities, whatever. You have now infiltrated and can become their leader. Haha, just kidding. I would say maybe just say something when they make sexist jokes to you, tell them they're being rude and you don't think that kind of humor is funny. Also, bring some of your female friends along when you all hang out in a group so that you have more of a balance. If you feel like they're disrespecting you somehow, just tell them. If you like them and like hanging out with them, then continue to do so. If you feel disrespected and like they're not treating you like an actual friend, you need to say so. If you feel like these people are your friends, then just remember that they might treat other women that aren't their friends differently because they might see them as more romantic potential. Hope this gives a little more insight.

People act relaxed around people they think they are on the same level with and can relax around. I am a politically liberal, middle class black man. Some of my coworkers are poor whites. We talk about a lot of things, but I don't talk about playing games on my iPhone (only yuppies have iPhones) and they don't talk about how they dislike Pres Obama. When I am around my other coworkers, we talk trash about Android and scoff at Republicans. It's a little bit about "respect" but it's mostly about avoiding arguments. It's very likely that those guys defer to other women for reasons other than because they actually respect them. Everyone likes me, but not everyone is completely comfortable around me. You have a group of people to enjoy and accept you to the point that they don't even single you out for special treatment. Why complain? Men are dogs, sometimes. If you think about it, women can be trashy and catty, so every group has their negative qualities that you have to learn to deal with. Demanding that the guys change for you might change how the guys sees you. Your group might be able to handle the new arrangement. I have no problem watching my mouth around ladies. Some people might not. Talk to your guys and see how they feel about it, but you don't want them to feel like you are a princess holding court.

I'd have to ask how your boyfriend treats you. His friends are going to take their cues from him and treat you likewise. If he thinks of you as a friend (with benefits perhaps) then his friends are going to behave similar. If he treats you like a lady instead of one of the guys and makes it known that he excepts them to respect you as such then they will.