How is the life of a mechanical engineer in the Indian army?

How do Indian guys in the US find Indian girls to get married to?

• I'm a 25 year old Indian guy living in the SF bay area. I'm a bit more social than the typical engineer living here. After moving here, I realized that social life out here is pretty fucked up. Most people tend to be extremely busy (or act busy). Social activities also tend to be mostly tech-related. So, it's hard to meet new people. I have a preference for Indian women (why? that's a story for some other time). Indians, being a very small minority in the US, restricts my dating pool severely. I'd like to know how other Indian guys cope with the lack of Indian women (and social opportunities to find Indian women). How do you find people to get married to? Do you rely only on parent-arranged marriages? Or online websites?

• Answer:

  Are you Indian Indian or Indian American?    I did my graduate degree at Stanford and got my ass out of the bay as soon as possible.  Why - because there are just too many guys.  Yes there are a lot of brown people statistically but they are all dudes and older married couples anyway.    Its also difficult to meet new people in a society where your life is consumed by being in your car, going to work, then being in your car.  It's just not conducive to having a social life, even if you are more social than the average person.   The best thing I can suggest is to move to NYC.  It's a much better dating scene for men and I see Indian couples all the time.  And oh my GOD the girls are gorgeous.  If you're on the software side you should be able to find a job though certainly the market won't compete with SF.  People are just more outgoing, more socially open, have more going on in their lives.  Short of doing that, you could try OkCupid.  I just took a gander - I filtered for chicks 22-34 (idk what your age range is) within 10 miles of PA and found a good number (though admittedly fewer than I expected - but it only takes one!).  My uncle had a similar issue when he was doing his MBA in Chicago.  Back then online dating was really new but he gave it a shot anyway (this was on Match).  15 years and 2 kids later they are still going strong.   One other thing I could recommend (but with which I don't have any experience) is to perhaps join some Indian cultural society.  In fact it's a big regret of mine that I didn't do it when I was still in school.  That will automatically filter in like-minded girls.  There will be a lot of aunties and uncles but who knows - maybe they're looking to set their daughter up with a well-to-do engineer.   BTW, I had 2 friends at Stanford (who were Indian Indian) and they got arranged after giving up on the dating scene in the bay.