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If you cheated on someone but broke up for different reasons, should you get back with that same person with no secrets or should you keep the secrets to protect their feelings?

• Imagine everything was going right for the longest time in the relationship (of many years) but all of a sudden there was a storm. She hurt me by lying about a significant life decision she'd made. I stopped trusting her from then on. I didn't stop there. I slept around with lots of different women as a form of childish revenge (also cause I am quite good at it). She never found out about them and she probably never will if I don't tell her. Eventually we broke up after almost 7 months of my infidelities but it was due to a different reason: she thinks that I don't love her and she suspects that I'm not faithful to her. She's right about the latter part but wrong about the first. I have a few options to choose from: Should I get back with her again and never tell her about my infidelities? Should I tell her that I cheated and risk never getting back together? Should I just move on, don't tell her and find someone else and hopefully treat that person better? Should I move on, tell her about all of my infidelities and find someone else in the future? We have a long history and it's very hard to break up or get back together. We have a lot of trust issues amongst us and I believe that relationships should have no lies. The only problem is that if she ever finds out that I cheated or that I've been with other women since we broke up recently, she won't be able to tolerate it and get back together ever again. I truly love this woman and she truly loves me too but this is just a huge mess that I've created and I don't know if I can live with the lies. Note: She's always been faithful to me. She's never been with anyone besides me in her life. I can't say the same anymore since almost the past 9 months.

• Answer:

  Just let it go. No good can come out of this.