Are girls in the PNW different from girls in the south?

Why are South Indian girls so un - outgoing?

  • Why do I feel South Indian girls are never interested in anything ? Movies, games, concerts - anything? Why do they hate fun? Answers from women will be particularly appreciated. If you think this question has been framed wrongly, or is sexist or anti women, then I'd like to clarify that that was not my intent and I'll not be willing to change how the question has been put. Okay, I'll add that for the past 8 years I have been living in South India and by that I don't mean Bangalore-South-India. I mean Trichy-Madurai-Ennore-Tuticorin-South-India. I also realise that the people on quora who'll be criticising the question are from well-off cities like Bangalore and Chennai and probably do not understand the question. Are south Indian girls brought up in a sexist environment? Is it that because of this, that they are conditioned to think that having fun is a bad thing from an early age?

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    They do, actually. A lot, apparently. Just not in front of men and out in open. That is taken as a frivolous act amongst them and you will be looked down within the society. Its not just the South Indians, though. Girls from not so metropolitan cities rarely have the fun, the way you think they should. Its about the mentality and upto a certain extent, being open.

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As a girl from one of the mentioned South Indian places, I would say that we are very much interested in movies, games, concerts and many things. If you mean flirting and hanging out with a guy is fun, most girls don't prefer having that kind of fun. The reason being, most of the girls will have the same place as their hometown meaning they will have more relatives/known people wherever they go. Hanging out with a new guy would not go well with the groom's family during marriage as most families are conservative. Fear of society is the main thing that restricts them in having fun.

Anonymous

Hmm. I think this is a classical case of a culture shock. A relatively 'liberal' society, seeing and deciding that the conservative society is not having fun. Of course they have fun. Just not the kind of fun that you identify with. I would also admit that certain implicit restrictions are indeed there in place for youngsters in south India especially in the case of women, but not so much as to damage our life experiences.

Aravindh Arumugam

Well, there is some real bias happening right there with your question. First of all, u seem to have ignored the "un-outgoing" nature of women from other parts of India like Bihar, Orissa, remote parts of U.P, far-east regions.If you are really concerned about women being brought up in a sexist environment, the question would have been framed entirely in a different way.And to answer your question,"having fun" is totally subjective.Women in areas apart from the cosmopolitan cities are brought up in a patriarchal society.They have their own definitions of "having fun" and try to do it within the limits prescribed by their male counterparts.They are obviously interested in movies,games, concerts and much more. It may not be the movies like Inception or Italian job, it may not be games like NFS or Football, it may not be Bruno Mars or Lady Gaga.But, anything that interests them . This type of having fun is never assumed a bad thing. But if your definition of having fun, includes dating, pubbing or anything on these grounds is definitely considered bad thing coz that is what is indoctrinated right from their childhood.And as that is totally an individual thing and nothing affecting a female's role in society, not much of an effort is made to improve it in this hue.

Mathura Thambidurai

Can u define "fun"?Perception varies. For me fun is reading books, traveling alone, painting. Im not interested in whatever is your definition of fun. But im sure girls who like the kind of fun ur talking about are also there. Not interested in movies? I bet you would have seen ladies flocking movie theaters during your stay in south. Games? I assume you mean games like batmiton or tennis. Well you cant expect girls from rural areas playing tennis wearing skirts. They have games like paandi, gilli etc Sexist environment? There is less of female infanticide and honor killings down here and we are given equal education as our boys. And one more thing, sexism is universal. You cannot point out any particular region for sexism.

Jaisri Radhakrishnan

Thats very wrong. I am a Keralite girl and I have tried to utilise my every second of my life having fun. 1. Travel- I have been Mumbai, Bangalore, Orissa, Delhi & Jaipur. 2. Games-  As far as I remember, from my 7th standard to 9th standard( 2003-2005) I had 4- 5 CDs full of computer games ( Max Payne 2, NFS, Mowgli..etc.)  which I threw away after my computer crashed several times. I played basketball in my school time and I am green belt in Karate. 3. Movies- Seen thousands and have hundreds in my HD right now. Our movie collection range is wider than north Indian girls. ( Malayalam ( the best and the incomparable),  Tamil, English , Kannada, Telugu and Hindi). Also, i don't like the hindi movies that are actually remake of Malayalam movies. It loses all the comic elements that ONLY the South Indian actors can add in. ( Few of original malayalam movies are- ( Drishyam- Drishyam, Bhul Bhulaiya- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ManichitrathazhuBoeing Boeing, Ramji Rao speaking- Manar mathai speaking, Chup chup ke- Punjabi house, Hulchul- Godfather, etc.  And I can keep writing more names.) The actual ones are far far better than the hindi versions in terms of comedy and acting. ( And I am not talking about glamour part. We love our heroes/ heroines the way they are. Atleast, they dont wake up from the bed with full make up on. ) Most of us might not like to booze and party ( the fun way you might say). But we might like to attend ulsavam in temples and have fun at palli perunnal and youth festivals at schools and colleges. FYI, almost every Keralite girl, I have known, knew the basics of  atleast 1 or more classical dance.( or classical music) ( No offense ,  but north Indian girls might not even know the names of the dance  forms.) We are not brought in any sexist environment. We are equally taught as much as our brothers are. Unlike of North, we are given a share in our parental property. Also, our opinion is asked in every important decision. What more to say?

Anonymous

Of course you shouldn't change the way you framed the question, duh us un-outgoing chennai express girls don't have anything else to do in life that we go about taking offense for such small things! You're so smart to bring up such an important issue in today's world!! Thank you. Well, we South Indians are so boring because we're GEOGRAPHICALLY placed below! Such a sin, you see! Well, we're reaping the whirlwind now!! As for games,

Harini Iyer

I don't know where you're coming form but obviously it's a pretty idiotic place because the assumption and presumption is awful. To clarify : South-Indianness doesn't prevent girls from being out-going, people-ness does. South Indian girls are as "fun" if not more than all girls :|

Sagar Dubey

Racially they are not so outgoing (i'm south indian ) than their north indian counterparts. I always find North indian girls even from villages and small towns to be very outgoing and great attitude.

Raghavendra Rao

Dude where did you get this from? I am a South Indian girl and I love every one of those things you mentioned... Everyone tells me I am really out-going especially the teachers. Some are out-going like my cousins and I and some are not. But there are limits to fun. Too mush fun could cause you to be looked down at by society. My parents words not mine! \U0001f61c\U0001f602

Neha Pauly

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