What is your GREATEST Passion?

I have no motivation and passion for almost everything in life. What should I do?

  • I’m close to 30 this year, and I have never felt this problem as acutely as now. My lack of motivation and passion started a long time ago, when I was a young teen. It could have been even earlier, but I’m not too sure, though I seem to have been like this for as long as I could remember. Adding to that is how I’m an incredibly passive person (perhaps unsurprisingly, since I’m not motivated!), and somehow it seems like a disaster is just waiting around somewhere to explode in my face e.g. failure to properly follow up with a key project at work and etc. There’s nothing that I really want to do. And whatever interests I do have, it seems superficial at best, burning out quickly. Those that lasted, I do not have the motivation or even passion to push it further, to make something out of it. It feels as though I’m just content to ‘float’ along as time and life passes by, and as a result has become unwilling or unable to function as a person and employee properly and independently. I’ve tried to find out what causes such an impairment, and I seem to always trace it back to how my parents emotionally neglected me when I was a child. While the neglect is true, I wonder if I’m just trying to find an excuse, or a reason, and to blame it on someone else rather than take responsibility. Whatever the reason, any help or advice on how I can find motivation is much appreciated. Not sure how passion can be found... :\ Thanks.

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    Hi, OP. I have a few solid, effective and sure shot solutions to your question. The condition: You will do it, and if not, then at least consider it. Solution Quora Read, follow, read, follow, read, write, read, follow. Keep this up. There are bound to be times when you will be bored, broken, ignored, unrespected, unappreciated etc. Specially these moments, Quora. Plunge yourself into Quora, the Cornucopia of knowledge. Make it a drug, make it a habit, make it the first thing you open in the morning, open it while taking dumps, check quora before sleeping etc. Topics of interest You'll be bound to find topics of interest. Once you do, you'll attempt answers on that. Once you write answers, you'll read different answers from different people, some of them real scholars. You'll feel the need to do a little research before answering. THERE! That's it! First signs of passion! Peace with yourself I would like to share what a wise man once told: "The day you turn 15, all consequences you face are an action of you and your own doing" What he means is, once you are 15, or say, 18, every action, reaction, consequence, success, failure etc is only your own doing. You cannot blame anyone because by the time you get justice, it would be too late for you. Make peace with yourself about this. Also, what justice can we expect from parents? They gave us the gift of life! The most terrible thing you could expect would be an early demise - well, how would that help you anyway? This statement always, without fail, has reminded me that I am accountable to myself. It's alright to 'drift' through life Perfectly alright! Hell, I wish I had the luxury to do so. What is not okay is if you are unhappy about it. So, we may also reframe this question as "why am I unhappy?" Maybe the answer to that is this, you can't see yourself drifting away and somewhere there is a small little fire waiting to roar out. You can't accept yourself the way you are - and hence you bothered to ask this question. You are already half way there!! Keep in touch with old friends I think this is very VERY important. Karma Trust me it helps :) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karma

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Love,First you have to check with a psychologist whether you are suffering from an illnesses like depression or not.All these positive and motivational answers will work on you, if you are demotivated yet healthy person.But if it's a disease that you are suffering from, then it's not your fault you can't feel these answers.There are a lot of energy out there to help you out. Hope you will find the way.Good luck. -People misunderstand that depression is something that can be cured pouring positive thinking and all kind of advice.-Only a person who went through depression know how harmful and more demotivating these advice can be.

Kitty Ritig

Hey, I don't want to keep it too long, but I was just like you.  I am serious. Life to me seemed to pass by one deary day after the other. I don't know what it was, but I felt so out of it. I felt out of my family, my community, my schoolwork, and even things I felt passionate about. One thing that turned everything around was to fail. I needed the stagnancy that was building to finally stop. Passing by life was keeping me in an unhealthy life and mindset, but it was comfortable. Things turned around in my first year of college when I started to do things all for myself. I was really faced with the fact that there was something wrong with me. As a teen, I skirted by on success, but when I had to depend on myself a lot more and choose everything for myself, I started failing. I couldn't handle the extra responsibility. I also still felt empty inside. I kept failing....missing classes, staying out too much, not doing homework, not having good relationships with the people I care about... It was not till Christmas, I saw that my attitude and behaviour needed to change. If I really wanted to change, I could do it. It was not until I got in trouble with my family and school did I realize this is the only life I have to do. Spring semester came, and I did just that. I tried the best I could to not miss class, do all my assignments. I also went to the gym everyday. I always gave 20-30 minutes for myself. I kind of relearned what my life goals were and all of my priorities. I started getting comfortable with taking risks. They were healthy risks. like being in a relationship or doing things out of my boundaries. I realized that doing something I was afraid everyday gets rid of the feeling of dread. I still disagree with my parents although, but I have come to terms with the fact that I will never agree with them. I got into a relationship with someone they don't like, but the thing is... I don't care. This is my life. With my story, I hope you can understand. You have built a cocoon for yourself that keeps perpetuating those negative feelings. I think that there is something that you are not doing or fulfilling that keeps you feeling like this. I recommend that you find that calling. Some say it is destiny, but I just think that our brains give us signals and emotions that signify that we need to be doing something else. I think you know it. It might be your parents, but your parents really cannot stop you from doing what you what. Although, seeking out that desire or calling might make a lot other people uncomfortable. It will eventually give you respect. I hope this helps.

Kristie Arias

Take life as it comes dont stress to hard and rethink on how u do not have aims.Read more, talk to people (sensible ones not free advisiors who might end up confusing u all the more),treat life in a simple way ull then hv small aims which in turn will make u plan. Relax mate take a break if needed ;)

Meenal Chandane

I assure you firstly that this is what it means to be human.  Some may seem very confident but at the bottom of it all we are all involved in a dramatic game of survival destined to terminate at some point.  That is the basis for all our actions and insecurities.  The way out is first of all acceptance and second of all mindfulness. The idea is to be able to enjoy the magic of what is without creating time based anxiety.  I would suggest reading up on mindfulness therapy (It can be done without external help), reading the "Power of Now" and perhaps some Norman Vincent Peale as a start.  If you understand it you can fix it.  And you are designed to understand. Als check out this WSJ article: http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748704111504576059823679423598#:Zii5RExUlynZ2A

Ron Sanyal

Enjoy it! Why bring about a meaning and mess up a fantastic state of nothingness?!?Have you heard of Landmark Forum? Yeah, you should do it. And no, I am not a salesman for the same. But having attended it, its just right for the state of mind that you have currently!Nevertheless, get away from the conditioning that this world has given you. And do not care about the world's judgements... Look inward, meditate and spend time within, than pursuing words like 'passion' or 'motivation'. You seem to be blessed with not having to worry of a rat race ;-)

Naveen Iyengar

Hi there. Whenever I am feeling unmotivated I like to fill my mind with things that will motivate me. For example this video could motivate practically anyone. I recommend you watch this and listen to what is being said. Motivation is just a mindset and you can program your mindset if you learn how to control it. 

Kostas Petrou

If you are not working, having money - Go to Chennai help others. Get involved with NGO or join Rotary Once you see the world and the plight of others you will be driven by a power The gratitude of the recipients will inspire to do more and more social service.

Raghav Rao

Note: I am not a mental health professional. It's fine to not know what you want to do with your life at age 20. Most experts believe that your generation will go through multiple careers during their lifetime instead of just one. And even then, you may never find your One True Passion. That said, it wouldn't hurt to go talk to a mental health professional and see if they think this might be a symptom of a condition that can easily be treated. You have a deep desire to "do big", yet nothing interests you, in spite of the fact that you "explored a lot of things". Don't let pride or fear get in the way. Just make a single trip to a doctor and see what they say. You're not under any obligation to follow their advice. But at a minimum you'll be able to rule out a possible reason for your apathy. On the other end, it might very well be the first step to a life where you can be "big". There's also no shame in taking a job to support your family, but that means your nights and weekends will have to be spent trying to find something that *does* excite you. You think your family wants the head of the family to be an apathetic clock-puncher all their life? You think your spouse is going to stick around? Think your kids will respect you? Pay the bills now and get to work figuring out what you want to do that will pull you and your family out of the "Below middle class"

Anonymous

Listen I've been in same situation sometimes I still am.  Part of it is your age.30 is like a quarter life crisis. Your no longer a kid at all done of your friends are more successful making progress and maybe your not. Where  you are now In life is not where you wanted to be or thought you would be. Life isn't exciting right? Find something wortjwhike like a career not a crappy job or unpaid internship. Even if you don't enjoy this work make yourself work hard anyway but make sure it pays a real salary, benefits etc. See even if you hate this job you'll be making progress. When you do what you love for no money you don't love it for very long. Also since you aren't passionate about anything you might as well make money.

Ayla Anjel

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