New "dream" job is anything but. Now I'm pregnant. What do I do?

• My new job is not the dream job I thought it would be. It's been 2 months and I'm miserable with the workload and how I'm being treated. Am I being unrealistic? Do I tough it out or look for a new job and claim bad fit? Complications: suddenly pregnant. I recently left a position I'd had for more than a decade when I realized I was stagnating. I am PMP certified and I took a new project manager position in a completely different industry about two months ago. I was super excited about the new job because I felt like it was an opportunity to step in and help this floundering department right itself. But the job's not at all what I thought it would be, or what I was told it would be. Basically, they hired a PMP to do administrative assistant work and essentially supervise every person in the department. On my plate right now? Writing a new hire announcement for a new team member. Tracking down the holiday celebration budget. Scheduling interviews with prospective PhDs. Scheduling meetings with management that I'm not allowed to attend. And the best part, being everyone's unofficial supervisor. Management expects me to be able to tell them what every single member of the 20-person team (spread out across 4 locations in 3 time zones) is doing at any given moment. Upper management has open contempt for the employees and do not trust them to get their work done, and the direct supervisors have been absolved of any responsibility to know what their people are doing too. It's all on me to make sure all of these people are doing their jobs. I've already been in trouble for someone else not doing their work. To add to the misery, I'm never given enough time to do anything. They always want everything immediately, even work that takes time to put together. Then I'm interrupted all day, constantly, by emails asking "will you have that done by tomorrow?" and IMs saying "you know that's due tomorrow, right? will you have that done?" Instructions are always vague, but when I ask for guidance I'm told "it shouldn't be that hard" and "use your PM knowledge." When I push back, I'm ignored or told to do it anyway. So, instead of what seemed to be a dream job where I'd get to come in and revamp processes and help people cope with all of the change that's been going on, I'm a glorified secretary and whipping girl who they have already decided needs constant monitoring or else I won't get anything done. I'm hesitant to push back too hard, because I don't want to look like a complainer or a troublesome employee after only 2 months. But this is not the job I want and it's not the job I thought I had accepted. There's a difference between "PM who can do a little of everything" and "supervise all these people in their day to day work, and also be the boss's assistant." And a part of me can't help but feel like they would not be asking a male PM to do half of the things they ask of me. And then I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I had just started trying and didn't expect me to conceive the first week of my new job. He's not working right now due to health issues, so I'm already the sole earner. I have no FLMA protection since I won't have been here long enough. So, I ca't tell if the job sucks as bad as I think. I don't know if it will get better or not. I don't know if I was deluding myself about what it takes to be a PM and maybe I just shouldn't have a job like this. I'm disheartened at what feels like a failed attempt to assert control over my career. I know I'm full of pregnancy hormones and I'm already exhausted, and most days I cry about how miserable I am and how I've already lost the bosses' respect in my abilities. TL;DR: What would you do if you were miserable at your new "dream job"? How do I stick it out at my terrible new job that makes me cry? Do I look for a new job even though I am pregnant?

• Answer:

  Look for a new job. You don't have FMLA coverage at this job, so you really don't have anything to lose. Can you imagine dealing with this bullshit when you're extra-cranky from being pregnant? Get out of there!