How can I make guys like me more?

i atrract guys i'm not supposed be attracting kinda like pedofile. how can i make this stop.

• okay as of now im 19 year old but when i was younger and it still happens till this day i attract guys over 27.. if they were younger i wouldnt mind so much..but i was sexually abuse more then 3 times and idk why this happens to me i just want to stop atracting them

• Answer:

  I don't think you can say you're not supposed to attract any kind of guys/men if you're physically matured. If you're not, then something's definately wrong. Oddly enough some men only ' like' those who're clearly children. As bad as I may be, even I can't understand that. Unfortunately, whatever any "law" or "common sense" says, there's also the instinct of reproduction. So, you might be 14 and look physically matured and it can simply happen. By the way, apparantly sexual attraction towards men is in your facial characteristics as well. Personally I find that wearing revealing clothing, like tiny tops and short skirts, only increases the effect of attraction. Then there's the society we live in, that basically tries to encourage us that it's OK to take whatever we want. HOWEVER If you don't want to, you don't want to. There is nothing that can make abuse OK. No reasons in the world can make bad things good. Often there is room for compromise, but some things will always be the same. Sexual abuse is one of those that are simply bad and everyone has the choice not to do it and full responsibility. I'm sorry that things have come so far in your case, but to answer your question, I don't think you can do something that provides a 100% guarantee that it stops. Abandoning short tops and miniskirts could help a lot, but I'm afraid it won't completely solve the problem. Men... -_-' (yea, even though I'm one of them) The only thing you can do otherwise is make sure you're not alone, or if you wish to be, make sure you have the time and opportunity to have someone you trust with you very quickly. I honestly wish you wouldn't have to do that, but I think it's the best thing to do for the time being. To be honest with you, I'm sometimes struggling at the other side, of being attracted too much by other girls or women. I have it since my 13th, but have been a virgin until my 22nd. Definately not because I didn't want to, but because I wanted to get more only for the right reason. That's often simply a war between me as a person and my body that wants something else. If I can hold out so long, then I don't see why others can't control themselves if someone doesn't want any physical contact. I hope this will help