What are good disciplines and interests which hold the schema of traits that a woman may find more attractive and interesting in a man?

About the Xbox: videogames will improve your reflexes and your hand-eye coordination. I'm sure you can figure out how to put this to use in your love-life. You can improve your social skills by getting interested in acting and improv. It will improve your ability to deliver a line, a joke or an anecdote, your public speaking, your voice and your body language. But Catherine is right. Women are not a monolith of mysterious feminine things. Some women will like your Xbox or your football tickets.

ALL those words up there, it seems like you're thinking about this really hard. but you forgot a crucial element. WOMEN ARE NOT A MONOLITH. they're all different. so the things that attract them will be different. try treating women as actual people you want to get to know, then maybe you'll have more luck.

We are very different from each other and this uniqueness is actually something that could make us attractive in such a way that no one could replace the significance of our existence even to that one special person we love. I would recommend that you explore your passion and pursue them.  This is how you can fully live your life which is a very attractive thing.  Boring isn't about certain topics.  If you love taxation or other seemingly boring field, you can still be viewed as an interesting person if you show passion about it.  Everyone has diverse interest and usually it isn't just your work.  You may haven't found those interests yet and you can start exploring activities you will be passionate about. People make themselves more attractive when they talk about something they are passionate about.  However, different people have different interests.  So only those who share your interest may be able to appreciate your passion e.g. for xbox. EXCEPT FOR ONE TYPE OF PASSION:  THOSE THAT MATTER People have hierarchy of needs.  As we grow to achieve the full potentials of our being, our needs move up to a point where we want to give something back.  Those are the passion that matters, things that aren't self-serving.  When we cultivate this passion out of genuine care to help or give something back because we feel grateful for whatever small or big things we experience in our life, we pursue something that ANYONE will appreciate and admire about us.  However, when we do these things for mere purpose of impressing people, it falls flat.  Therefore, it is best to grow towards the person you would admire to be and everything else will fall into place.  It may not be the same as my version of person I want to be but this is who you are, the unique you.  By doing so, you will attract the people who will share the same set of values that you hold dear to your heart. All the best.

It really depends whether you are looking for a young girl or an older woman. A young girl might be attracted to a flash car or a talent for skateboarding or skydiving.  An older woman (say over 25) will value honesty, compassion, manners, tenderness, commitment and so forth.  Developing these characteristics will also help your career and your non sexual relationships, as well.  Work on character development in general... lead by example.

Thanks for the A2A. Simply just be yourself from the very beginning. Good things that you show to attract women/men in the beginning will change. A men/women will look into your real personality afterwards. Honesty/Sincerity and sense of humor are the most important ones :)

I'm inclined to disagree with the "just be yourself" answers.  Your hobbies define you as much as you define your hobbies.  Good hobbies will mold you into a better person. Boxing is the hobby that's given me by far the most bang for my buck. For the record, I'm a nerd.  I've been academically driven my entire life, spent the better part of my youth playing video games, and have spent many other hours in hobbies such as programming, writing computer games, composing music, art, social dancing, etc.  All very intriguing to me, but also quite bookish. In stark contrast to the aforementioned, boxing molded me into a shape I never dreamed of, helped build my confidence tremendously, and is also where I met my girlfriend. Boxing gives you a killer body.  Just to get the obvious out of the way first.  When I was 18, I could run a mile in about 7:00 minutes.  I'm now 28, and can run a 5:00 mile, something I've never dreamed of achieving.  Boxing is a total-body workout and promotes both lean, explosive musculature and great cardiovascular conditioning.  I've never looked or felt better. Boxing gives you confidence.  Everyone starts out terrible.  When I started sparring, my body felt awkward and off-balance, and I instinctively flinched and closed my eyes when punches came my way.  I would bend my waist in weird contorted ways and hop around like a bunny rabbit, all the while with my hands too low leaving my jaw wide open.  I ran my face into fists.  It was a very awkward experience.  It's almost akin to being a newborn again and learning to walk. But I stuck with it.  Week by week, I saw myself change.  Where I once buried my head in my arms and prayed for the best, I now gained mental acuity and awareness (because you can't guard against punches if you can't see punches).  I learned balance and agility to move in and out from my target in a way that I could never even fathom prior to training.  I got hurt - pretty badly a couple of times - but I learned to keep my guard up and stay calm and composed in the face of ruthless onslaughts and flurries of ill-intentioned fists aimed at my head. Boxing is risk management, damage control, and offensive strategy rolled into one in a high-speed, high-stress situation.  Knowing that I can handle opponents trying to smash my face in has done wonders for my confidence in regular life. Boxing promotes humility and self-awareness.  When you get humbled by a quicker, slicker, more technical opponent, you realize that no matter how far you progress, there's always someone better out there.  You learn that just as you have natural strengths, you also have natural weaknesses that opponents can exploit.  You learn the kind of searing, sweat-soaked, burning hard work required to get to where you are, and marvel that there are still people who could put you out in under 10 seconds.  You respect your peers, and acknowledge your limitations while you celebrate your progress. Humility aside, boxing is badass.  Here's a synopsis of the sport: two dudes trying to punch each other in the face to submission. The original question pertains to hobbies that help in dating.  As for how having a killer body, being confident and self-aware, and partaking in a badass sport can help you in dating, I leave as an exercise to the reader.

Thanks for the A2A It feels like the premise of this question is all wrong from my perspective. I teach my clients that the focus should be on finding someone who fits who you are...  the sheer volume of individuals out there means that logically there MUST be at least one person out there that FITS you as you are without you having to "design" yourself into someone other than who you are. Yes of course, be the BEST version of yourself that you can be, but I don't think it matters so much whether you're into some Xbox game or into developing awesome table manners.  It's deeper than that.  It's about WHO you are what you stand for, what you place your agency behind.  The other stuff is simply decoration, bait if you will...  I don't know about you, but I'd rather have someone in my life who wants to be with the REAL me.  Not the "fashioned" branded, glossed up version of me.  I'd like to know from the start that they aren't going to judge me for the fact that I spend most Sunday mornings until about 11 in my scrappy old sweats and fluffy slippers.  That can't be a reason that I'm "not good enough" or "attractive enough" to qualify to still have them be with me. I'd like to tell you that the solution to both wanting to get that 34 kill streak on Xbox and being an avid football fan, AND being attractive to a woman is to find the woman out there who has a 35 kill streak on Xbox - coz she's been playing longer than you - and can tell you more about your football team than you ever knew...  she does exist out there! Why my perspective makes sense to me: I'm married (8 years and very happy) to man with whom I share very little in common, in terms of interests (I think it probably stops at sex!): He is quiet, introverted, analytical, physically active, mechanically and technically minded man, who farms; rides, builds and tinkers with motorbikes of all kinds; reads nothing more in-depth than a bike mag or a bike-related forum; races regionally in off-road enduro races and LOVES building stuff - and generally avoids social events if he can.  I am a loud, opinionated, extroverted, intellectual, linguistically focused, people-loving, emotionally and relationally minded woman.  I manage people, coach people, interact with people, I'm a voracious reader of all sorts of material from fiction to psychology and ancient history.  Physical activity is scheduled because ... well who likes exercise?! I can spend days sitting behind a computer, writing or reading.  I paint and sing and I love the arts and performance and music. We simply could not be less interested in each other's "stuff".  Yet we are terribly interested in each other. Why am I interested in him?  Well because of what he stands for and how it FITS with me and what I value:  He is honest and trustworthy and strong and imaginative and he cares about important things and he protects me and he is an incredible and wonderful father and he is stable and consistent and he loves me entirely and he gives me a lot of freedom and respect and there you have the crux of it:  RESPECT.  We respect each other and therefore value each other's stuff BECAUSE the other values it. So I suppose the best thing you can focus on is your principles, values, what you stand for, the causes, the things outside of yourself that you can put your person behind and invest yourself in.  People are not interesting so much for what they are interested in, but for what they put themselves behind, or act on.  And when you put your agency behind something, an idea or a principle or a thing of value in your eyes, you will see immediately that as much as those actions may make you more attractive to some, they will also instantly make you less attractive to others.  So we come full circle:  You need to find someone who fits WHO you are, and if you've in some way denied who you are in the process, the person you attract will not fit you and you'll always be looking for a better fit, even if it is subconsciously. So STEP 1 - figure out what you stand for and make sure you work on the traits that broadcast that stand.

A woman more than anything wants someone who is interested in her. So treat her like she is the only person in the room, ask her about herself, listen to her and respond to her answers.Keep a lot of eye contact and never look over her shoulder! Even if she decides you're not the man for her, she will have found you attractive and interesting as well as a good conversationalist (though because of your questions and focus she been doing most of the talking!).  . And if at the end of the date you are happy to behave like that for the next time and then the next and so on, then that shows you have found her attractive and interesting which is a good a start as any!

This question sounds a little desperate. Stop focusing on acquiring a novel trait  or pick up line that will impress females.  That won't get you very far.  Here's what I've learned about women. They enjoy being pursued and, if they like you, they will run just fast enough to get caught. If you like her, give her attention, make her feel special and play the game.  It's called romance.  It's more fun than Xbox.