I had a girlfriend, but now she is attracted to her ex-boyfriend because we fought for nearly a month. She no longer wants to marry me.  How do I get her back?

leave her

Look buddy, you need to set your priorities here. First decide whether you love her or not. Second let her decide whether she loves you or not. Next, whether both of you are willing to continue your relationship or not. If not, then you can not force her to do your will.. If she walks away from you, let her do that. You have to bear the pain of parting away, but that pain will be bearable than the pain which will come after forcing her to stay with you. You can not do much in these circumstances!!

Look buddy, every relationship has shortcomings. It's a common thing. But what makes a successful relationship is the willingness to be with each other even in events of adversity. I know, you might be feeling guilty for all of this but you have to be strong. The best you can do is to arrange a talk with her. The talk has to be gentle and truthful. Tell her what you feel, show her the love. Don't exaggerate, just be subtle. Be the guy whom she fell in love with. If the stars fall in right places then you might win her back. On the contrary, you have to prepare yourself for the other side too. Sometimes, even after putting all the efforts, things don't go right. If she had truly made up her mind then no one could change it. You know her closely, so you may get the idea about her flexibility. Don't think about marriage straightaway. Building up love is a gradual process. Just take one step at a time. Just in case, if everything falls down, and situation demands you to step back, be a gentleman enough to walk away from all of this. Life has got more meaning to itself than just one girl and one relationship. All the best.

Thanks for AtoA I have few questions to ask you before answering this question. 1. What is the point in marrying the one who doesn't love you. 2.What is the point in trusting someone who is openly making temporary relationship with you and her ex. 3. Do you think you both will be happy after marriage ? 4. Is it possible to handle the person who has lot of fluctuating mind? 5. Your life is only meant for her love? or Don't you have any other work to do in your life? 6. Love should be a part of life, but it should not affect your happy life. don't you think its troubling you than giving happiness? 7. How long you can adjust with the one who has attitude problem ? and with the one who openly told that marriage is not possible? 8. Is there is sens in making love relationship with one who doesn't want to marry you and treat you as a time pass? 9. Just because of one quarrel she gone back to her ex and now she don't want to marry him also, is she tust worthy? 10. Age matters for love? is that 6 year make such difference?            Brother if you find answer for all these, then get back to me. I hope you understood my opinion. Answer for these questions and then lets discuss further. Love matter cannot decide in a day, it is matter of our feelings and emotions so let us discuss in a broad way and come to a decision.

It is a lost cause at this point.  It is time to find someone that you won't argue with.

You can't force her to love you. Move on and make new friends, join groups which do things you like to do, find a new hobby, concentrate on work - just give yourself time to get over this girl, because it's not going anywhere.

Send a thank you note to both of them and move on. It sounds like a game.

It's end of the story. She is attracted to her ex-boyfriend while being in a relationship with you is a strong indication that there is a fundamental problem in the relationship. Please move on.

If you are in a serious relationship and she wants to be with another man, she will do the same when you are married. Relationships are all about working things out where fighting for months is normal. It's about adapting. Seriously... if she is westernised, it's best to not have a relationship with her and get an Eastern woman with family valves. It's what I did and it's very easy compare to a nightmare. Westernise women give up so easily, 2 months is not long at all. If you were fighting for 2+ years, sure you have a problem... Move on bro, she will come running back anyhow when she starts fighting with her ex boyfriend and jump from you to him. Do you always want that on the back of your mind or be with a woman that will ALWAYS work things out!