What do very intelligent men find attractive in women and in sex?

Intelligence, confidence, accomplishment, warmth, reciprocation of interest, general attractiveness. I found all that one night on a blind date with a student nurse.* We'll celebrate our 55th anniversary later this month. ______________________________ * For me, the most beautiful girl in the world -- then and now.

Very intelligent men resist classification and wouldn't be caught dead inside a subset of any kind. Oh and by various estimates, between 3% and 10% of them don't find women sexually attractive at all.

No matter what level of intelligence a person has, sexual attraction has a physical component. I do not think that intellectual males demand Victoria's Secret models but they are attracted to feminine traits and a woman who pays some attention to her physical appearance. (That is, clear skin, long hair, fairly well dressed and not overweight). With that out of the way, the most attractive traits intellectual men value are a) women who can talk to them intelligently about topics they love and b) women who find them attractive and aren't afraid to say so.

Yes it happens because sex is not related with intelligence by any means and it is a natural way of being attracted as it is a body satisfaction and not game of brain.

I'm not a science person but I think I'm smart enough to offer my opinion. You can't beat character. If you're smart but manipulative there's hell in a hat before I like you. If you're smart and thoughtful I like it. For two reasons. That's who I am. And they are both, positive, and complimenting traits. I've learned to value character a lot. So I guess if you asked me being hopefully wiser than a not 'very intelligent man', I'd like this. A beautiful [visually], smart, kind, caring person. Don't care what you wear, unless it's like something you made or have a deep personal connection with. Don't care if you're a soundboard for science. Sure youd be a good friend/colleage, but you aren't like funny or endearing or sweet. It's too mechanical to be purely likeable. So, yeah Any questions?

While it may be true what you're saying, I feel that this can be applied across the board, not exclusive to people who work in STEM fields. People usually gravitate to other people they like, other people sharing similar interests. Yes, it may be true that people who are involved in the STEM fields are usually less outgoing. But, it's not totally true. Therefore, they might not go out of their way to seek out a partner. Again, not true for all. It's fair to say STEM requires lots of hard work, and passion. Again, for most a relationship may not be high on their agenda. I said for most, not all. Just as you said, you wanted someone with similar interests. Yes, it seems logical to go about it the way you are saying. But there is no right or wrong answer when you're seeking out a partner. So, just learn how to flirt, and choose someone who you want, don't wait for them to come to you. I know you said you don't like the typical alpha type male, but dating, sex, and love isn't science so it shouldn't be treated as such. Don't think about it, just do it. You never know what life will throw at you or take you.

I would be very surprised if intellectual men liked less of a variety of women than all men do. Perhaps intellectual men might be more interested in intellectual women, but even that might not be the case. Some might prefer less complicated women, so even the distribution of intelligence preferences might not be that different from the distribution of preferences we see in the overall population. Still, if there is any difference in the two populations, my guess is that intelligent men would be more likely to prefer intelligent women. Otherwise, they will have the same distribution of preferences for all other traits they look for in women, such as attractiveness, cultural similarity and everything else. As with all research questions, I'd like to know why we care. How is finding out this knowledge going to change us or help us? For that matter, how would it change or help you? Are you trying to find a group of people within which you can feel normal? Are you seeking to validate your preferences in some way?