What to do about my life career?

Life: What does it feel like being in late 20s, single women without a proper career?

• This might be little long, so please be patient.   I am 26, single women, working in a MNC. I hail from a family with moderate values (with traditional approach in career and love). My educational qualification has nothing to do with my career as like many Indian parents pressure their children to take up "safe and secured' course (read finance), which I didn't have choice at that point. I started working as HR after graduation for a year. Due to some personal problems I had to quit in a year and confined in home for more than 3 years. During this time, developed an interest for writing. Started blogging, and now am 4 year old blogger (Quit that 2 months back). After the break, I took up job in writing. But dring last 2 years I have switched 3 companies and the current company I work has nothing to do with writing or editing, although it's a very reputed company. I don' care for brands, but it's just been 3 months since I am in this company, and will take a year more before I actually start doing editing. I have now lost interest, and am unsure if I should quit a job (I just started to save. My sal is less compared to what people at this age - maybe half or lesser than that, but money isn't the criteria as I don't have burden of financial support). Going to job had always been my dream but the corporate culture sucks (so do shallow minded people). I always had an interest in journalism, which my parents didn't approve of. I also have passion to start something on my own, have some ideas too, but very unsure how it will work out. Moreover even if I start I can't devote much time since I have family responsibilities too. (Fyi my parents don't approve the startup ideas I have. So even if I start I have to hide from them, which is very difficult as they have an eye on me all the time). Basically whatever I like doing, my parents/family aren't on same lines, and vice versa.    Many reasons for not leaving my job (as it is an escape from being at home 24*7 I admit - coz atmosphere at home is never peaceful. Mom dad fight over silly things and sometimes are so immatured. happens in every home maybe, but ours is quite a dramatic family), marriage topping all of them. My parents are looking out for me, very eager enough to get me settled as if there is a deadline (All parents worry and want their daughters to settle down, a natural concern, but does forcing or putting pressure helps?). I am clear about my partner preference, but they cite am being too choosy and looking for a perfect guy (which isn't so obviously). There are few factors I am looking for, like me being sole decision-maker if I want to continue my career or turn housewife (with freedom to teach in NGOs or do some course, etc)I met few guys too, but it didn't work out. Some had their bloated ego, and others well, each different I can just say. Since last month, I have seen 3 guys, and now am given an ultimatum to choose between 3. I am quite unhappy with all, but on second thought can choose one. But my parents don't have good idea about him as his earnings are hand to mouth (with a younger sis to get married). I am brought up quite well in a middle class family (that moved to upper middle class). The question of career and marriage has blocked my mind already. I am confused as both my career and marriage are interdependent to a great extent (Like, in case I get committed to that guy, I would have to work to help him in supporting our family. And the current situation of my job isn't bright, in fact has never been) I have struggled a lot in life, so I know life isn't easy, but it's not bad as well. I really need advice on how to go about it because i don't have anybody to talk to on all this.   PS; Thanks for patiently reading till last :)

• Answer:

  Hii, I can very well understand what you are going through. I think you should not quit your job at any cost that's what makes you independent. You said you dont want to stay back at home so quitting your job wont do any good to you.You should do what you love be it writing or starting up something on your own and if possible look for a job elsewhere (any other city).Now your parents, what I think is they are worried about your security and they dont want you to struggle.But above all they want you to be happy so just do what you love. Now coming to those guys.... See I would say please dont go ahead with any of them. You aren't confident about them and just because your parents have asked you to choose one out of the three you are doing that. But you know what? it is you who has to decide.If you think you deserve better then you should wait. This is your life ,once you get married you have to be with that person forever. So think wisely is this the guy you want to spent the rest of your life with? And if the answer is yes go ahead otherwise dont. What is this ultimatum yar? You have the right to choose your partner and also your career. Just be strong and do what you really want to do? Dont be under any kind of pressure. Trust yourself and believe me you will be happy.  And one last thing. I am very happy to answer this I'm also going through all this and I feel good I could be of  some help to you as I had no one by my side when I needed someone so badly. So stay cool and be happy.