What advantage is there for a woman to enter into a relationship with a married man from another country?

Hmm. Maybe, she's in love! Certainly it's possible she's either afraid of commitment, or simply wants a brief affair. They are valid explanations, even if you disagree with it, as I do. There are women who prefer to be single, or women who are looking for a brief affair, yes. But I could argue that the women as shared: "wanted to have a guy around now and again", are not in love. And a brief affair is hardly love at all, but rather lust. Surely, there are women who are, in fact, in love with married men. (Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman; he married her shortly after his divorce.) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Newman#Marriages_and_family The way I see it, pursuing a relationship with an unavailable person with whom you're in love with, is not advantageous, nor is it worth the investment. Still, when is love a rational and logical experience? It's not. And I wonder if we all mean the same thing by the word "love." To my mind, there is no social or geographical impediment when a person is in love. It knows no boundary. You're simply in it. There are no benefits to weigh, nor strategic advantage to be sought. And, though I think it's easy to judge the man's involvement as limited to the novelty and excitement of another woman's attention, I wonder what happily married man would encourage a relationship, and whether he's satisfied, if his source of desire and excitement is outside of his marriage. It's tempting to chalk this up to being a flaw in the woman's character, but the fact of it is, a relationship works both ways. It takes two.

if it's not a single man, chances are he won't leave his relationship. the only benefit that a woman gains from getting involved with a married man is the sense of apparent safety: this relationship is bound for a failure, so it's going to be a light romance lasting a year or so, after which she is free to move on to another adventure.. it is a false sense of security and it is worsened by the fact that by being with more than 1 person, and knowing all well that this will eventually end without much hardship (unlike a divorce), she is "always free" and unattached.. however, this age of 30s won't last forever and while that man may enjoy your company, you will not have anything to show for it at the end of this flirtation.. instead you must invest your time with purpose and find a relationship that is stable and is between equals: single consenting adults who are willing to forego any other temptation and have a monogamous relationship.. as you are right now, you single-handedly bring about suffering to his family.. would you want this to be done to you? yes, he may be the man of your dreams but he's in a relationship, so you must back off for ethical reasons.

This is a way of chosing a man, without having to commit.  She says (or thinks) she is in a relationship, but has none of the work to do that an actual, person on person relationship involves.  It's just face time, on a screen, now and again.  And once the screen is off, she goes on with her life, exactly how she likes to live.  If she likes to take 3 hrs to get ready, there is no man there angry and telling her to hurry up.  If she likes to eat in front of the TV, some fast food dinner - she can - he's tucked up at home with wifey, he has no say and no way to know.   I have known several long term singles, that got involved with married men.  I always got the understanding that they chose these guys because they didn't want the commitment, they just wanted to have a guy around now and again, when it was their choice.