How do I fall out of love?  I know I have major self esteem issues and if a guy speaks to me well, there you go I fall in love. While I reject the guys who fall in love with me brutally. Please help.

Where are you meeting them? If it is at functions or parties, I would suggest not going to as many. As bad as this is going to sound, go find a nice introverted nerd, and chat him up. Understand that he probably gonna need some time to get over the shock of a real girl talking to him (sarcasm). But honestly it sound like you are falling for alpha male types that get what they want then leave. An introvert is very loyal, they do require space but if you can manage them well they wont mind you being around a lot. As an introvert, I can be very romantic, and I prefer emotional connections over sexual ones. I face a lot of challenges in getting things, but at the same time I listen, I care, and I need you (generic not specific) just as much as you need me. Introverted guys are far less likely to approach you, which is why I suggest approaching them. Depending on your age and if you are in college or working, these can be factors on how you meet men.

Here's a plan that might be useful.  Stop looking for love for a while.  Spend that time raising your self-esteem instead.  A therapist can help you learn to love yourself and distinguish between a good bet and a bad one.

I'm in a similar situation and bought loads of self-help books.Still I dont understand this quandry about a guy who disappears

What in you is attracting the SAME JERK over and over again? Does that self-doubt has anything to do with breaking up with some loser? Maybe that's an asset..! Take a deep, long look at the mirror and send yourself the love that no one else on Earth can give you, only you put it first in your own eyes. Be well..

The first problem is in not addressing your "major self-esteem" issues.  Until that is dealt with everything else will fail. It isn't a question of falling in or out of love.  You've already identified the problem.  Fix it and then consider looking for relationships.  At this point, you have no business involving anyone else in a problem you aren't prepared to solve.

I have had this conversation I don't know how many times with my best friend. Let me start by describing her. She is the most beautiful person i've ever met inside and out. We've been friends our entire lives so we'll say 30 years, in HS she was a cheerleader, super popular gorgeous had the body of a model. She now has an 11 year old son and gained a lot of weight during her pregnancy, she can't get rid of it. She is about 5' tall and very overweight so her self esteem sucks. I've seen her in so many dead end relationships with losers that are way beneath where her standards should be; however, same as you though she will latch onto the first guy to look her way b/c she CRAVES!! love and affection. She is 33 and has a 3 bedroom house that was left to her by her grandma, she drives a less than 5 y/o Mustang, she has a job and basically no bills so she's a hot commodity to losers that don't want to work or have been kicked out of their mom's house. So to get to the advice part, some may not agree with me but who cares. Be the guy. Put yourself in his position does he want someone that offers no challenge at all? No, they want the "thrill of the hunt" make yourself unavailable. If he txts you don't reply righta way, you're busy even if you are just watching paint dry he doesn't know that. Once you learn how to play the game guys will line up. I'm not saying go out and sleep with every guy you meet that would be bad, but if you are really interested in someone let him think you have guys lining up just to see you, let him chase you.