What are the chances of finding a wife at a US grad school?
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I am a foreigner (from Central Europe) and will be studying at a grad school in Northern California for 2 years. What are the chances - that as a non-American foreigner - I will find someone who will marry me during those 2 years? I didn't have problems with dating in the past (lived for London for 6 years) and the reason I am asking this question is that I am particularly interested in the attitude of American women towards marrying a foreigner. Age wise I am 27 now.
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Answer:
From what I've seen, grad school students are usually either already married or not willing to marry until after grad school. Few people marry during grad school. They're broke, they're busy, and their futures are uncertain. Also, highly educated people tend to date longer before marrying (http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success ). Even if you find your beloved on your first day of grad school, she probably won't want to marry you after dating for a year or so. Overall, I would rate your odds pretty low, for reasons that don't have much to do with you being from another country.
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Questions like this always bother me because they're impossible to answer. Sure I'm an American woman, and I'm 27 too, but I haven't the slightest idea if most American women would marry foreigners. I am not willing to speak on "our" behalf because that's just silly and I hate generalizing. We are all individuals here. How about this... are you a nice person? Are you caring? Are you loving? Are you intelligent? Are you funny? Are you patient? These are things that matter way more than if you were born in this country or not, at least, those are the things that SHOULD matter, to the right woman. If you're just looking for someone to marry, with a deadline nonetheless, it makes me think that your intentions aren't all that genuine. It could be how you phrased the question, I'm not sure. In short, yes, I'm sure you will find someone to marry you wether it be in the US or halfway across the world.
Ashley Buerkett
sounds like "will marry for a greencard" scheme.. any reason why you chose that 2-year interval? is it a part of some bucket list? hypothetically, what's going to happen if you don't marry within those 2 years: will there be a consequence? will you lose some inheritance in your native country? realistically, the chance is 50/50: either you will find the love of your life or not.. your probable pool of potential mates will be limited to your school - that is if you plan on studying diligently; if not, your ability to move around and time you will be able to invest in traveling, dating, and meeting new people all comes down to your income/earnings/financial stability.. [EDIT]: asker insisted on more comments.. i am responding only because you insist on the thought process.. short answer: you won't like my response.. long answer: provided you have the ability to answer my questions (in the original response) and have a plausible/logical reason, there are other hurdles.. this is what a woman in US (myself) is thinking right now: - you need to be smart (smart enough not to ask the question that you did); outcome - failed - you need to first get to US; you are not in US and you're already planning the marriage; outcome - failed - you need to have a higher purpose in life - and not just come to US posing as a student while specifically looking for a wife; outcome - failed - you need to be genuine in your intentions to find love; putting 2-year deadline on the whole thing is just ridiculous; outcome - failed - you need to realize that you may find true love (yes, i am optimistic) - but what if you propose on day 2 of meeting this person and the response will be "NO"; what then? will you be trying to hit on every single female in your area? women in US are smarter than you think: they smile and are pleasant but they have brains; they can figure out your game in no time, plus they may even know one another, so you will be officially banned from any interactions; outcome - failed - you need to realize that the courtship may take longer than 2 years; what if it's 2 years and 1 day - will you just "drop" this true love because it's cutting close to the deadline? outcome - failed - and the biggest one of all: you simply cannot generalize women by geography; if you think that all women in US are alike or that women in northern CA are alike, it is a huge mistake; outcome - failed
Margaret Weiss
Well you'll have as good a chance as any other guy but I assume you mean that when you say Northern California you're referring to the bay area? Well I hate to be the bearer of bad news but California in general and Northern California have a heavy disproportion of single men to single women (aka lots of rich single guys all over California). Especially Silicon Valley which is where Stanford is! The one exception that I can think of would be San Francisco where I've personally seen a lot more women. However that could be just a lower disproportion of men to women. Overall, your chances to meet a decent (single!) gal are much lower not because your foreign but because of the area.
Paul Núñez
Hopefully very low.
Gene Linetsky
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