At what age does a man become invisible to women age 25-35?

Perhaps you can apply that to yourself and see your own reaction and maybe get an idea of how women might feel, for example when you were 25-35 would you have considered dating a woman in her early 40s? Or how about since you're in your early forties now, would you consider dating a woman who was  say, 55-65? Would you find them attractive? What age do you consider a woman "too old" to date? What's the cutoff?

This is a difficult question to answer I think because most women's attitudes vary a lot from their mid twenties to their mid thirties. For a woman, turning thirty (right in the middle of your proposed age range) can be quite an attitude altering milestone. Many 25 year old girls will still be in go-with-the-flow mode, not having seriously stopped to assess what actually matters to her in a mate, in a more meta way than just "he needs to make me laugh". Most 35 year old women know what they care about and for many age proximity will not be as high on that scale as it was. By that time anyone who has had significantly older and younger friends will realize that age really is just a number and maturity levels vary a lot on a person to person basis. For myself, right around turning thirty, when I was realizing that life wasn't turning out to be everything it was "meant" to be by that time ("Shouldn't I be married with kids and on a solid career track? But I still want to have new experiences and don't feel ready to settle down yet!") and realized that that was just fine, my attitudes towards men changed a lot and one of the ways in which it changed was being attracted to a much larger age range of men. I attributed it to no longer accepting societal norms of what my life should look like. Now, in my early thirties, I find myself attracted to men from their early twenties into their early forties. When I was 25, 26, 27, I would not have strayed any younger or older than 3-5 years of my own age. And I disagree with the other Anon - I would not have been persuaded by having gotten to know the man. There were nice, interesting, good looking older men in my life but I was totally turned off to them. That being said - (intelligent) younger women WILL at first be wary of why an older man would be interested in THEM. But once she is certain that you are looking at her as an individual person with a mind and a personality, rather than just trying to chase a shinier, perkier, younger thing to prove something to your ego, it's all good :) To more directly answer your question - You will become romantically invisible to almost all women when you start to approach the age of their father. This is why your 53 year old friend can't snag a 29 year old.

There are two answers to this question.  First, most women in that age range, if asked, would never consider a relationship with someone your age, especially if you look your age.  If they were asked what age they'd consider for a partner, it'd invariably be someone in the same age range, or a little bit older.   On the other hand, if you make the acquaintance of a younger women in a social or workplace setting, without immediately trying to hook up with them, they may overtime find themselves attracted to you in which case age would become a less relevant factor.  The chances of this happening are not likely but it does happen. The possibility of this happening would be increased by your ability to make them feel secure and offer other things that younger men might not be able to. However, if you stop women on the street (or check their eharmony profiles) most of them wouldn't acknowledge that someone your age has a chance. To be honest, I really think you have very little chance with a 25 year old. But good luck with that.

In your 40s, you can probably expect a max 10 years difference before it starts feeling different for a woman in terms of attractiveness. If you keep pretty fit and look good, you might periodically reach a little lower. The things is, attractiveness alone might work for a man to open the deal, but for a woman, you also need to have: Complementary emotional customs and values. Mental common threads, experiences that bind. Shorthand, meaning you understand what each other thinks and feels and why. With each age group comes certain cultural differences. Not acknowledging that is what seems to cause a lot of these second marriages where the man is much older to fail. Most people would prefer someone within 5 years of their own age, but if you meet the above requirements as well as being attractive, you can surpass that mindset. I would advise you to avoid looking for the youngest you can get and focus on those who are healthy and physically active and BE healthy and physically active yourself. The notion that a woman 5 years either way from your OWN age is unsuitable seems to be crossing your mind here. Correct me please if I'm wrong. If that's true then you may have some misogyny speaking here, and maybe some ageism issues of your own. If this is an issue of having children, again, if you want this to work long-term, I'd focus on the woman herself, regardless of age, and worry about reproduction or adoption AFTER you create a solid family base. Few women want to have an invalid to care for as soon as their children leave college, but women who are more mature are better able to weigh the good with the bad and may overlook your age.

You can find questions and answers to everything at Quora. I guess that's why I love this place.   Not that I am an expert by any definition. But for what it’s worth, some of the ladies' answers here are fascinating. While I would agree that most any online dating profile that reads, "male 42, seeking female 26" is basically on life support, that's not necessarily the case in real life.   Much of it comes down to a man’s looks, attitude, and his "je ne sais quoi". Frankly, it's somewhat laughable to hear a gentleman in his early 40s contemplate over whether or not he can pull an attractive woman in her late 20s/early 30s.   Of course he can. (Is this a trick question?) There are a lot of women who are attracted to a man because of his life experiences. For those women, older men are oftentimes more interesting.   Yes, the sugar-daddy concept can be part of this phenomenon. But not necessarily; not by a long shot.

When I was 25, men over about 29 were invisible.  Now that I'm 34, men over 39 are invisible (and I have a preference for men closer to my own age.)  Despite what some delusional guys might tell you, women 25-35 are not exactly dying to be with a man in his 40s.  Do you look at women 55-65 as hot potential dates?  No?  Well then draw your own conclusions about what women 25-35 think of you...

I'll be completely honest. For the sake of experiment, we (women age 25-35) might try dating someone over 40, my personal cut off age for men is 42 (I'm 30, and when I was 28 dating someone over 38 seemed ludicrous to me). I wouldn't consider someone over 42 as a serious boyfriend material. On average, men in their 40s and older just don't look good, have bad physical and emotional habits, and lack vitality and excitement. I'm sure there are exceptions, but in general, the life views of women 25-35 and men after 40 are just not in sync. We might enjoy your company and your effort to impress us (another turn off to older guys), but it's unlikely that we'd want to introduce you to our close friends or family.

When does the man become invisible ?   Im actually very shocked by  most answers ....is age such a defining factor here ? I wonder where these answers are coming from ? I can only go by my own experiences ....         I am a 43 year old male...    and I have always ...  For no reason but It worked out ???      -- I've always had younger girls attracted to me !   I travel and I am a performer ..   But nothing special ..  Just a kind soul and  treat everyone equal and always have ..     I now am in 2 year relationship with a 30 year old.... Prior to that I married my sons mother she was 11 years younger but the most important fact is -- I become friends with great girls each week and 75% of the time they are of course younger !!! They r the active souls out and about !Older guys ... Must not go out or have confidence in your area ?  Idk .. im in New York City but California Miami Chicago and Atlanta  have been great cities for meeting peeps ! If you are asking this question (maybe) you are "living too old" and don't have your priorities n confidence in order ?? Maybe ???#invisiblefriend