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How do you tell a friend you like her or make a move, being shy and not drunk?

• I made a good friend. We often have lunch, go to museums, have coffee and every time is great as friends but that´s it. I really like her but I'm quite bad at making a move if I'm not drunk or in a club or something similar. I know it sounds terrible, but as a shy person, it´s really difficult for me to find the right moment to express my feelings to her on the daytime in the middle of a coffee shop. I feel it would be very awkward and I can´t picture her reaction and how to act afterwards. So I'm all the time looking for the perfect moment to tell it to her, but that moment never comes and I feel every time we meet and nothing happens is a step towards a 'platonic friendship' that would never be more than that. In a club or a bar, half drunk it would be achievable, but she doesn´t drink much or hang out until late. So, please, can someone tell me a non-awkward way to make a move on my friend? I found many advice here, but very vague, I need details. Thank you.

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  1. In the past I've used this tactic to initiate the process of informing the girl of my feelingshttp://. In your situation you need to create scarcity. If you hang out regularly it will be a shock to her if you come out and make a move or say you like her. It may sound romantic and I know they do it in movies, but remove yourself from her reality for a bit. If you talk every day now, stop. Stretch the absence to 1-2 days, then to 4-7 days between texting/etc.. This will create a want in her, subconsciously, to talk more with you. She will then value your interactions more and her emotional profile of you will change because of this. 2. This part takes effort because there are no scripts to follow or standard ways to arrive at this, but create a situation to use a phrase(via text message) similar to the following: "How am I supposed to seduce you if...." "Are you trying to seduce me?" etc To make this happen I usually misconstrue something she says to me. Use your imagination. Example: -Her: I can't hang out that late tomorrow, I have class early. We're meeting at your place, right? -Me: Sure you can and yes. -Her: Haha. Maybe I can. -Me: Good. It makes it way easier to seduce you if we're hanging out late and we're at my house at the end of the night. -Her: OMG! haha -Me: Gotcha. This is a real conversation that ended with intercourse at my house with a girl that was previously "my friend." Of course it's not always that easy, but what I did was frame the impending hangout in my favor. I've done variations of this since high school. All I do is make her okay with me speaking in those terms and once the relationship is reframed to that of your creation you can really do and say whatever you want and get away with it. Look up framing and text game. There are a million informative blogs/forums related to seducing women and a large amount of guys are in your situation. 3. Close