How does the adoption process go for adopting out?

You sound swamped - and not knowing where to turn - with no help - right?? Do look at the links that Freckle Face gave you. There is help out there - you just have to know where to find it. If your family aren't helping - get the hell away from them - as you and your baby/babies (??not sure how many) need to get to a safe spot - that's what's best for all of you. When you're in a crisis situation - sadly those that want babies at any cost - will prey on you - and tell you anything you want to hear - just so that they can get your children. But what is absolutely best for your children - is for you to find help and a safe place to live - and stay together. They want you - as you're all they've ever known and loved. You sound so overwhelmed - and it's really hard to think straight when you're under pressure. This is probably all temporary - but adoption is not. Adoption is forever - and when you get yourself all back on your feet - you'll want them back - and it will be too late. Here are some more sites to check out for support and resources - http://origins-usa.org/Default.aspx?pageId=51995 http://www.keepyourbaby.com/ http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf Please email me if you need to talk. I'm hoping that you'll find the help that you need. Take care of you. ETA: Giving your children away is NOT a loving act - what a load of bull dust. Your children will not understand the reasons why - never. Your children want you to stand up for yourself - and stand up for them. Find a way to help you all stay together. They have no say in this - and are wanting you to do the right thing. No amount of money will EVER make up for them losing you. No one else on earth will love you as much as they do. I know - I've lived adopted for 39 years. And I've missed my mother for every day of all that time. Nothing takes that hurt away. Anyone that tells you otherwise - has not lived with that grief - and just wants another baby to adopt for themselves. They're making it about their own selfish needs - not about helping you and your children with what you really need - to stay together.

Sweetness, You don't need to give your babies away. You need help, support, friendship, and MONEY! You're in a rough spot, but I promise you can make it! If you need temporary help with your babies while you get back on your feet, try a guardianship with someone you trust (sounds like you don't have anyone you trust, but this is something to think about anyway). Look, this is a temporary situation in your life; you don't need a permanent solution. Your babies don't want money or fancy things. They want their mommy, and food in their tummies. If you can't give them both, don't remove yourself from their lives - just find a way to get them food and shelter until you can give them that yourself. And for goodness sake, get those leeches and losers out of your life! You deserve better! What your bf and your parents say means NOTHING when you've got babies to feed. Next time they berate you, ask them, "how does this put food in my babies tummies?" If they're not going to HELP, then they can just go away! Email me if you want to talk. You and your babies deserve to be together. Don't let ANYONE tell you that you're not good enough to be their Mom! You can do this!!!

just remember if you adopt them out there is no getting them back and you will no longer be their mother and open adoptions are not always so. also your situation is bad not the children heres a website for you to look at and if you believe adoption is the best thing for you the nexy step would be to contact an agency http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/index.html good luck with either decision and trust you know best

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I think the greatest love a parent can give a child is knowing what is best for their child. If you feel that you need help contact an adoption agency and explain the situation that you are interested in placing your children for adoption. Another route is too talk to people you know or go to a church and ask for help or outreach. Tell them you are looking at placing your children for adoption and usually they will know a family that is willing to help.

Hello, If you decide to place your children, you can decide where they go. Many agencies won't work with older kids, and they prey upon women who are not quite sure, but will tell them anything to get them to sign. If you sign consent forms, read them through, every word, before you sign. If you have any doubt, go to an attorney, and in some cases, if you work with a private attorney for adoption, the people who are adopting the children will allow you to speak in private with the attorney, where the attorney would represent both of you. An attorney is bound to follow the law, and would lose their license if they knowingly allow you to be lied to, or if they lie. Most states have a time period of a few days, up to a few months from the time the consent forms are signed, until they go through the court to relinquish your rights. I know in my state it is 10 days, and once you sign the consent forms in front of a notary public, you don't have to go to court to relinquish. You have every right to ask for an open adoption, where the records are not sealed, and you can ask for visitation, pictures, phone calls, etc. You can even make an adoptive parent take a drug test. Adoptive parents will pretty much jump through hoops to be able to adopt! It will be necessary for the children's father to sign papers. In some states, if he didn't sign up on a punitive registry at the clerk's office, he might have basically given up rights already, although all adoptions are much easier if he does sign. True Deadbeat dads often will sign just to get relieved of the child support obligations (true deadbeats, not good dads!). Having your children adopted out of state can be a little harder, unless you take them to that state, and be a resident of that state during the relinquishment time. It really varies with the laws of individual states, and if you are willing to give a guardianship to the adoptive parents during that time. Very few states anymore have grandparents rights, but some do, where the grandparents can actually fight for custody of the kids. (our state found it unconstitutional) My prayers are for your kids, and for you. It sounds like you are going through a very stressful, hard time. There are many options, and don't let people try to take over and control you. Be informed, and be in charge of your children's destinations. You know what is best for your kids, even if it is placing them. Take your time deciding, because once you do go through with an adoption, you can't go back. Perhaps a temporary guardianship might be better, where you can have a break for a few weeks to get back on your feet?

Check with your local government social services agency. They are able to take relinquishments from parents. The process is that you meet with the adoption agency worker and they will go over all the paperwork (which they prepare for you) and make sure you understand everything. They will have you read some statements and check off that you understand. You will meet with them again within a day or two and do the exact same thing. Then there is usually a 30 day period when you can change your mind, no questions asked and have the baby back. Once those 30 days pass, the papers will be filed with the state, and you will have no recourse in getting the child back. You can specify the type of family you'd like the child to go to and the agency will let you know if they have families available, you might even be able to meet with the family before and make sure you like them. If you choose to go with a private agency, the process is much the same, but they will probably take more time and allow you to actually select the family the child goes with. Under no circumstances will a legitimate agency pay you for anything. "Baby buying" simply doesn't exist in legitimate agencies, as some would have you believe... it's not a 'business.' There may be some fringe agencies out there, but they don't last long before they're shut down.

I'm sorry you are in such a tough situation. I hope you will find the help you need and a good environment for your child. I'm not sure how old your child is. If you feel adoption might be best I would suggest contacting a local adoption agency, they can at least get you started. Most private agencies work with couples/families interested in adopting newborns or very young children. If this is the case they will have profiles of the families they are working with and you will be able to choose a family. Also they should provide counseling to make sure this is the right decision for you. Also you can specify if you want ongoing contact with your child. If you child is older I don't know as much about the process, but I'm thinking an agency can point you in the right direction.You could also call child protective services, or the foster care agency and ask if they deal with parents who voluntarily want to place children for adoption.

if i am understanding you...you are wanting to place your children for adoption? First of all, there is plenty of help out there to help you keep your children...if you JUST don't want to be bothered, the the state steps in and your children will go into foster care...though, foster care will ask if any immediate family wants to care and/or adopt your children...you can give up all rights to your children and the process will go faster for them to be adopted...I just feel in my heart that you don't want to bother with your children...because there is PLENTY of help with food, shelter and clothing in every state...