How can I get really good friends in University?

If you want to be friends with someone, Ask for something from him, like asking for a pen or some other stationary material. Comment and appreciate something in them which make them feel good. Respect their personal space. When you turn an extrovert, you would hate it and would try to be an introvert again. Best of luck.

I didn't feel like I had any friends my first year at college. This is my story, so it won't necessarily work for you. I didn't have a roommate as a freshman. I was accidentally assigned a female roommate in an all-male dormitory, so she moved out on the first day. I didn't fit in with my hallmates. I was too awkward, naive, and uptight to fit in with them. I even moved to a different dormitory for the second semester and still didn't fit in with people. The only social things I did as a freshman were student groups and campus events. Although I'm introverted, my quirikiness, congenial personality, naïveté, and good memory allowed me to make many friendly acquaintances. I went to Swarthmore Feminist meetings on Sunday and Tuesday, IC-BCC dinners on Wednesday, and SQU meetings on Wednesday nights. Every once in a while there would be a Colors meeting on Friday night. During my first semester I would eat breakfast three days a week with two people from my dormitory. Besides these things, I spent all of my time alone. I ate lunch and dinner alone. The best kind of club for making friends has a small number of members and isn't cliquey. The Swarthmore Feminists had about 12 regular members. We were all friendly with each other, but we had separate lives outside of club activities. SQU was bigger, like 20-30 people, and felt cliquey to me. I only stayed in SQU because of Susanna. Because I went to clubs every week, certain people became accustomed to seeing me weekly. As long as you have hygiene there will always be a few people who like you for who you are. They won't be in love with you, but you will grow on them over time. This is a big hurdle for shy people; they can't see the middle ground between BFF and invisible loser, so they always think they're a loser. Be patient. My current BFFs began as strangers in Swarthmore Feminists and SQU. Susanna and I were both introverts who didn't fit in with the big clique in SQU. We always left first and had short, slightly awkward conversations while walking out. One day I saw her sitting in the dining hall alone, and chose to sit with her on a whim. We hit it off and the rest is history. I've consistently kept in touch with her even after her graduation. We don't have many similar interests, but we still "connect" and talk about our lives and emotions for hours. Susanna was friends with several people in Swarthmore Feminists, so I ended up connecting well with them too. They all visited me in Philly last summer. So how did I do it? A lot of it was dumb luck. But I still had to do something, just a little bit of club activities and a little bit of courage to eat with Susanna that one day. Eventually you find a person who fits your personality very well. Your question asks for "really good friends," so I'm not going to talk about other types of friends. In college most of the people are friends of convenience: they spend a lot of time together because they conveniently live in the same dorm or conveniently share the same majors/hobbies. I have made one very close friend who began as a friend of convenience, but for the most part such friends are transient. They can still be wonderful friends, but it's not the same relationship as a really close friend. A few final tips. Don't try to force a friendship or force a fake personality. It defeats the purpose of your question. Go to therapy; everyone needs therapy friendless or popular. It'll help you be a friend to yourself, which is crucial for befriending others. Don't be jealous if people don't invite you out all the time; remember the middle space between BFF and invisible. Don't burn bridges; people can change. Finally, you have to learn your boundaries and the boundaries of others. I talk to Susanna on Skype about once a month now, because that's the frequency I'm comfortable with. You don't have to become an extrovert to keep good friends.

Assuming that it is a really good university, with a wide scope for extra curricular activities, try to participate in them according to your interest. Whatever your interest may be, be it sports, music, literature or any other thing, try to express yourself and show it to the world. Talent automatically gathers attention, and when people see the spark that is there hidden inside your soul, they will naturally be attracted towards you. It's okay to be an introvert, even I'm an introvert and it is not that introverts like us do not have a social circle. It is just a matter of time when they actually know you, your innate qualities and your true self. A person's looks may attract people towards him, but it is his persona that makes those people stay in his life. So go out there and tell them who you really are. A word of caution though. Do not be a show-off. Do not do it to gain popularity or fame or anything of that sort. Just express yourself with the sole purpose of self-improvement and always be humble enough to accept failure, defeat or your own mistakes, because somewhere out there, there will be someone who is better. Learn from them, be humble, and you will go a long way in winning people's hearts. Actions do speak louder than words, and if at all you cannot go up and talk to them due to your introvert nature, just show your raw soul, and it will be them who will come up and talk to you. Cheers!

I am also an introvert.  Like another person who answered, I need a reason to talk to people. If you want to strike up friendships, you'll have to give yourself reasons to talk to people.  Lucky for both of us, universities give students reasons to talk to each other like it's their job (it is a big part of their job).  Find a student organization that works for you.  It might be related to your major or a future career, or it might be something fun like a club that watches a different movie each week.  If you're religious, get involved with your institution's club for people of your religion.  Applying for an alternative spring break is great, because you will have a team of people with whom you'll work closely on a meaningful project.  Things like intramural or club sports are also great if you have a sport you enjoy.  You'll have reasons to talk to the people at these events, and you'll have at least one common interest.  This all has the added bonus that it looks good on your resume for jobs and grad schools later on.

Please be who you are, and believe me you will get best friends of your life here only , though a Ittle late... you can also try to mix with people of your interest by participating in different activities like clubs and all

Just try to overcome your introvert by not thinking about it much. Try to have talk about daily lectures at your university classmates sitting next to you.Incase you are living in a hostel you can roam about into your neighbour's room and start a conversation. Try to develope skills by taking part in your college activities you can automatically make many friends by having such kind of interactions You can start your conversation by talking about some interesting happenings of your college. You should most importantly try to remove thought from your brain that you are introvert.

I understand your situation. I went through the same thing. Even I'm an introvert. I'm good at talking to people, if there is a 'reason' to talk to them. It could be any reason but some concrete reason... But I find it hard to just go up and say 'Hi' to someone whom I've never met before and talk. Luckily for me I was in my University's student body and I met several people and met 'great friends'. The more people you know, the more choice you have in having friends. You'll find people with whom you'll just fit in. Having friends who share your thoughts, do the stupid things which you do and respect you is great. Don't worry, you'll find plenty! Here's a tip, sit on the last bench.

never sympathise....always empathise :) you'll surely earn a good no. of friends.. (y)